#quimcourse

THIS POST WAS ORIGINALLY MADE 12/12/2020

TW: N/SFW topics and phrasing, age gaps in online friendships, ableism, harassment, all the absolute nonsense shit that comes with a 37 year old engaging in Internet Fights with people half their age concerning their self insert p0rn fic where they fuck every man in TMA, and elias calls her p*ssy a “quim.” 

real shit that’s how this started. believe me, i know.

HERE IS THE RECAP/MASTERPOST ABOUT THE SUBJECT!

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anon: I'm really glad I follow the right ppl on tumblr apparently because this is Wild (you're a right people, I enjoy your blog, and once I get the spoons to read fic longer than the nail on my thumb, I'm binging your fic like I've been dehydrated in a desert)

thank you, this is sweet of you! i try to be a right people, this type of shit always BOGGLES me because i’m like. how do you even have the willpower to be this way... on Purpose...

i hope you get your spoons back soon! not even to read my fic but just to be more energized for doing the activities you enjoy. <3

(5n)

anon: you mentioned the self insert/j*n*h fic and im just remembering that they have a beta reader on it that is like more than a decade younger than op and i can't help but think there's something really fuckin uncomfortable going on there like. this person is srsly bad news + im just glad i know what tumblr to block now

okay yeah wow that’s genuinely messed the fuck up and i’m going to reply to the rest of this under a cut just to keep the bulk of the discussion off people’s dashes, this isn’t the stuff i want to have on my blog in excess but WOW!

fuck man i hate this i truly wish i could somehow get that person away from them but if they made it through 50k of that and consider them a friend i don’t know how the hell they could be convinced to put distance between them by random strangers i’m aaaaAAAAH that’s! fucking horrendous.

currently they’re now engaging with at least two or three other people who were completely uninvolved in the situation here because they’re trolling tags for any mention of either jonah, elias, mike crew, probably jamherst and prentiss, anyone topical, and. will not give it a rest like i shit you not this started maybe three hours ago and is still going this is a 37 year old adult doing this i do not CARE how very autistic you are when most if not all of the people you are harassing Also Are, and are also this much younger than you

i literally wrote them a massive essay on how they handled this situation poorly and how they can do better like 100% full stop very long and civil explanation with clear guidelines on how to improve and that is MORE than anyone is obligated to give them. but since i did that, now it can be said with full confidence that every excuse they give from now on is exactly that.

g-d i can’t fathom anyone buying this person’s horseshit but the tragic fact of the matter is that young people are susceptible to manipulation from just about anyone especially someone who weaponizes their neurodivergence to victimize themself and frames things as like, asking for your help or valuing your opinion like we read that as Respect and being Acknowledged for our maturity, and that’s how a lot of us have fallen into the trap of being abused online by older people.

like. man we all say and do some dumb shit when we misunderstand social cues, and we have to take responsibility for it. this is firmly displaying that they know exactly what they’re doing and simply don’t care.

(4n)

anon: up until now i didn't know about those older weird tma fans and you know what while i'd love to still be swaddled in the blanket of ignorance i'm glad people are warning others. i'm so sorry you had to read that too. it's happened before in a fandom that the most maladapted, gross and unaware of their behaviour are in their thirties and it just makes me think. also on a positive note: your gerry header on your blog is beautiful

thank you, i love my header so much! i credited the artist in my desc, go show them some love<3 (response to the rest under the cut to save people's dashes)

yeah, it’s? good to have at least a low level awareness of the people who actively behave like just this specifically so you can block and avoid interacting with them, period. for the record, i did not personally read any of their fics so i’m totally safe, it just became my problem when they started DMing me personally.

people in their 30s aren’t inherently predatory or problematic, but there’s a time and place to interact consistently with young people (family, students, etc.) and fandom isn’t one of them imo. it’s better to try and limit to maybe responding if someone younger approaches you first (like asking you for help, advice, or just saying they like your content, etc), and keeping it short to avoid prolonging the interactions past what the situation calls for.

the problem begins when people this old Are exactly aware of what they’re doing, or simply don’t think it applies to them because they have “good intentions” - but even the best of intentions can result in a bad dynamic that gets younger people too comfortable talking to people your age, and can lead them into trouble elsewhere.

i’m really sorry for putting this on your dash, and i’m sorry you’ve had bad fandom experiences in the past! i just want people to be able to stay Away from people like this user who has made it very clear that they’re indiscriminate about whose activity they start flooding. be safe, friend<3

(10n)

anon: as someone now in their 30s, who fell prey to the predatory older 'friend' in fandom when I was in my late teens, I want to point out that it's not always someone a full decade older than you/that someone's age isn't necessarily an indicator of whether they're safe to talk to or not.

you’re not wrong about this at all! and i’m not arguing, no worries. that said, i did say a few times already that this isn't a conversation i want to continue having at length, so i’ve been trying to keep it contained. that’s why i didn’t go into all the particulates surrounding the whole concept of predatory internet interaction. you could write 6 different dissertations on this just to cover all the disclaimers and nuance, and they are worth talking about, but not everything has to be talked about in one go, y’know? i’m not paid to do any of this, and frankly the amount of energy that it’d take to cover Every Single Aspect of a situation like this would call for it. i’ve really only been addressing this expression of it because this is the current situation at hand, and the one that was brought into my inbox.

i’ve had an abuser that was a few years younger than me as well as many who were only a few years older, i know quite well that age isn’t the primary indicator that someone will be safe or otherwise, but it sure is a big one that people do still need to be conscious of, whether they’re the older or younger person in a given situation.

(6n)

anon: TW for suicide ment /// they are apparently trying to do a lot of guilt tripping on their blog- blaming other autistic people for "acting neurotypical" and talking about how they're only alive because of a few people

yeah i’ve been getting the updates on discord and i’m just amazed by the stamina, like. isn’t it time for your nap, geezer. how do you have the energy for this? but i guess this HAS to be exactly what they wanted when they tried to pick a fight with seraf and me, right, i mean.

okay hear me out. it’s just like this tiktok where a white cat and a black cat jump into a bin, and then four black and white cats jump out and run around in synchronized patterns, like. we punnett squared into four other people being fought with publicly for NO reason because they were not the original cats to jump into the bin, they are four completely NEW cats that have no business taking on the burden initially shouldered by the first two cats.

you get what i’m sayin?

(7n)

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interlude: i DID make this post when i was told they’d reblogged my other post of receipts on them and it was hilarious so here it is.

gonna unblock me so i can reply to your reblog of my post luv???? or are you just gonna sit there quimbling

#they'd just say 'my pussy is shaking' like an adult if they could acknowledge that they were one #nsfw text / #the reply is stupid anyway though considering they focused a lot more on the fact that there was apparently no ovipos in their fic #than the yknow. Actual Problem Here.

(15n)

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anon: Legit feel like I'm having a mental break. I'm reading icecreamsaviant's or whatever fanfiction. And Jesus H. Christ.  

don’t dignify them with a hit! honestly isn’t worth hate-reading, save yourself.

(5n)

anon: Is it weird that I feel uncomfy with minors following me even tho I’m 19 and I tag my nsfw (which is mainly jokes?). Specifically like those under 16? Like I don’t even interact with tma fanfic outside of my mutuals fics and yours because I just... *points at the mess of tma fics that are icky*.

not weird at all, everyone has different boundaries and it’s totally understandable to want to keep your space tailored to your personal comfort zone! i totally understand and frankly feel the same way.

also, i’m really touched to hear that my fics are included in the ones you interact with; that means a lot to me! thank you ;;

(6n)

anon: [kneels down and touches dirt] something terrible happened here (I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, this was wild and definitely not on my tma fandom bingo board dfghjd)

the people will tell stories of the great quimbling for generations to come...

(i’m fine! i’m just really sorry to have exposed you to this, i really do plan to clean up my blog ASAP & i’m gonna ask that in general i get no more asks on the matter, please! thank you guys, and take care of yourselves<3)

(5n)

anon: i’ve seen different ppl mentioning that one person on my feed and i went to block them and i think they’re the same person that i banned from my discord server after they kept saying like. wildly innapropriate things. and i gotta say it’s a relief to be able to block them on another platform! and also a bit of a relief to not be the only person they’ve weirded out! but i did not realize the depths of their weirdness! very much a wtf moment tonight

BOY!!!! PARDON ME? anon if you wanna DM me with the deets on that i’d be happy to let you get some of That off your chest LOL. Wow!!!! you are Not the only person to find them upsetting to be around nope!

(5n)

anon: this is the most batshit fandom drama (if you can even call it that???) ive seen in my life thank you for your service king

yeah i don’t even know WHAT to call this! but i’m glad to be the soldier kneeling in front of the child (you) in the meme our lives became when this began<3

(5n)

anon: Going to unfollow you temporarily until this calms down. Its kinda stressing me out. I’ll return in one or two days. You don’t have to reply to this. Take care!

i’ll answer this just to let you and anyone else who feels similarly know that this is 100% COMPLETELY FINE and encouraged if it’s too much! frankly it’s too much for Me too and i just, want it to simmer down, jhbkn i’m going to be taking this as my cue to start condensing all the responses into a separate text post and just get rid of it now. thank you for giving me that push!

i hope that you feel better soon & i am just glad to know that you’re taking measures to take care of your mental health!!!! be safe<3

[i am leaving this one up for a bit but i’m putting it here too for when i delete it]

(n)

AND NOW FOR ONES THAT DIDN’T GET PUBLISHED!

anon: you know that meme template with the kid sleeping and the soldier standing blocking all the bullets? you're the soldier and king i thank you for your service this is all so FUCKING funny (but also to be genuine for a second thank you so much for doing everything you can to warn against this person)

SAME BRAIN that is the exact meme that i’d use to describe this jvhbkn along with maybe this one

:’-)

(and a genuine thank you right back! that’s all i wanted to do i didn’t want all this Response jhbkn but Hoo Nelly. hoo!)

anon: I just KNOW they like the word quim because of like, marvel loki. I Know it.

i forgot all about “mewling quim” come ON why did you have to remind me!

that said, dollface is a kylo ren stan, So. i wouldn’t call this a reach at all!

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AND we are all caught up. amazing.

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EDIT 3:03 AM 12/13/2020

anon: Wait lol i had an interaction w that person before but i thought i was blowing it out of proportion but no, they're genuily just a freak, thank u for warning ppl abt them