#queer scene

“I’m so bad at this, I’m like Bambi on ice.”

It mimics two very contrasting, but classic experience pipelines among queer men in the 1980s (and today as well).

I had the most successful night of my life at the local club after I went out in my work clothes not intending to go for a full night out. (I was just dropping in on my friend who works there after their shift finished and we ended up staying) Apparently even in the queer clubs here people who look like the gender they're "meant" to is actually what people find attractive (????)

So much for queer people being more discerning or whatever!

Then a week later I went out abroad in my full club kid getup and was extremely popular there dressed in that way soooo....

That’s not an easy question to answer. The mainstream Dutch LGBT scene is very much cis gay & lesbian dominated. It does not have a strong history of passionate TERFs the way the US and UK scene does and as a result the general attitude to trans people in mainstream LGBT places is not coherent. Even within the COC (the biggest LGBT group in the Netherlands) attitudes of local chapters vary from very transinclusive to obviously transphobic. Dutch radical queer women’s are heavily influenced by the German scene and as a result include quite a few TERFs, though they are not enough in number to really dominate the space. If you go to a feminist festival like the F Word festival, you will meet TERFS and you will meet a lot of ‘feminists’ who respond to TERFs with ‘let’s debate about this’ instead of ‘get out’. Yikes. 

The Netherlands has quite a lot of active trans groups and these too are quite diverse, from conservative to liberal to radical queers. With the exception of a few youth groups, most trans groups are run by transwomen so transmisogyny has little foothold there. One pretty great queer-trans festivals is the Beyond the Binary festival. Also, the TranScreen filmfestival is pretty queer and hosts quite a lot of queer movies and debates. 

i fucking hate this smug, pseudo bullshit so much!! oh thank u, u gender queer master for appearing to give when u actually take take take. and taking that one thing, that one thing that matters more than anything. THE FACT THAT I AM AN AUTONOMOUS *HUMAN BEING* JUST LIKE U. JUST. LIKE. U. MY EQUALITY IN STANDING. MY HUMANITY. REMEMBER THEM??? urgh, check out 4:48 if u wanna vom. what’s the point of this crap? it’s like some sections are ok (3:55, ‘thank u for side swiping stereotypes’) but, just when u let ur guard down, we’re back to the usual crap. um...some situation where ure parading around, clock some randoms and start tripping cos u got the girl? and that makes u the big something. really? so, let’s step back a min. we’re animals, crawling a rock in space. u spot some animals u figure dont respect u. u dont respect them. and yet u still see fit to trip out on some status war, with hottie on ur arm acting as some magic tree air freshener, hanging around to remove the smell of ur shit. reality check: no-one wins with these insecurity-motivated hierarchy games. u fuck urself and the ‘other’ and most of all, u fuck the femme, relegated from thinker, soul and human reality to accessory to ur playground bs.

from wiki: ‘ Coyote does not believe in the gender binary.’ clearly. just some morphed version of it. facepalm!

(for example by having a seperate room for smoking). I am so pissed off because especially "leftist" and "autonomous" and "queer" parties are often the ones who allow people to smoke everywhere and can you not. I am not even unable to go into a smoke-filled room, it's just uncomfortable for me, and honestly you'd hurt me less if you deliberately stepped on my foot. Do not do. Especially since lots and lots of people ARE unable to go to the party/place at all otherwise.