#queer ootd

I <3 this outfit and how this album makes me feel

Tonight my spouse and I went with some of our queer friends to a new-to-us brewery closeby, which has a whole huge outdoor area with playgrounds and fire pits and a live music gazebo. The pizza was too expensive for how good it was (6.5/10), but it was fun. I dressed like an absolute clown and I felt surprisingly hot? Very gender. Which, is new for me, because I almost never actually *felt* attractive before embracing being nonbinary. I’m exploring this feeling.

Like, the general customer base vibe was VERY Straight™️ and equally split between Hawaiian Shirt Baseball Cap Boomers and Shiny Blond Beige Dress Millennials with multiple small children. Im not normally around that crowd, and walking around outside with my toddler I had this bodily awareness sensation of "I am very loudly not fitting into the designated categories of people here".

Like I looked fuckin gay as hell, and I saw mayyyybe one queer looking chick with short hair. I was traipsing through wearing a goofy shirt like every grandpa, and my favorite raspberry suspenders like nobody but myself.

Not one of the men. Definitely not one of the women. How the heck are these people perceiving me?

How am //I perceiving me?

In the past that ✨I Don't Belong Here✨ echoey anxious sensation would've sent my insecurities in a downward spiral, because I DID feel different no matter how hard I tried to fit in. And truthfully it did unsettle me for a moment—but this time my mind connected the Different Feeling to all of my choices in how I presented, and all the joy that went into my choices— I felt different on purpose, because I chose to embrace Me, and that felt very hot of me.

I was Consciously thinking "okay roughly 10 percent of Americans are self-reported queer. I'm not everybody's type here, but I'm SOMEBODYs type, and they think I'm hot. Maybe they're mad about it because I look like a roller rink carpet, but somewhere some middle-aged deeply closeted-bisexual evangelical megachurch soccer mom is very secretly questioning some things right now because of me and my Suspenders" and that felt hilarious and I felt extremely cool and confident.

more of mochis fit backlog 48/????

yes this is definitely Normal Clothing, why do you ask?

i am reasonably confident i whole ass wore this to a doctor's appointment that morning lmao

cardigan: w💖c

dress: ota-q

socks: angelic pretty

shoes: Y.R.U.

hat: violet fane iirc

I'm a non binary lesbian (afab), I usually dress up in a more fem way (not too fem, usually like large pants - never jeans - some random tee and sneakers and I ALWAYS have lipstick on, usually red like red red lipstick yk?). Ppl always assume I'm straight, and it really pisses me off lol, I don't like to "look straight" and tbh I don't think I look THAT straight yk?

So the thing is: any tips on dressing more non binary lesbian-ish? I really don't know what to wear, I'm still trying to figure out my personal style, I like colourful stuff, I'm a deep winter and I really like to wear black with some splash of really colourful colours.