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Anonymous asked you: For the first time in three years, I'm single and I have a big fat crush on this girl. She's queer and she has a great personality but she lives 6-7 hours away. My friends have told me to let her go but I can't help but hang on. We've been texting for two months straight and she knows I like her but I can't help but still cling on it. What should I do? Hi! What struck me about your question was what you didn't say. You told me that you have a big fat crush on an amazing girl. I got that your relationship is geographically challenged. But what I didn't hear is if this girl likes you as much as you like her. You mentioned that she "knows" you like her, but is she crazy about you too? If she doesn't feel the same way, my advice is to cut your losses and your data plan, and move on. If you're not sure how she feels, ask. If she does reciprocate your feelings, then ask yourself the following: how does it feel to text all the time, is that ok with you? Is there any chance that you could see each other in person? What are your thoughts about long-distance relationships? Do you feel pressure to let go because of your friends, or is it something you want too? Now let's talk about holding on and letting go: If we cling for dear life to something that's going down, we'll only make it sink faster. Let yourself hold, reach for, touch, caress, support, balance and embrace whatever it is that you want in this life. But when your grip begins to tighten, that's your cue to let go, or you'll find yourself strangling, suffocating, grasping, tearing, tugging, and ultimately turning your sweet desires into sources of suffering. There is no right and wrong here. Just get clear and be honest with yourself. Thanks, Pilar

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I discovered about a month ago (beginning of high school) that I'm a lesbian. I'm in love with my best friend (she's straight, but she's in GSSA at my school and very pro-gay rights). It's getting really hard to keep it a secret, and it's the only thing my friends don't know about me. I want to tell them, but they've said before that they would never have a sleepover with a lesbian or be close friends with a lesbian. My parents are very religious and though they aren't homophobic, they're very against gay marriage and they aren't fully accepting of homosexuality. It's taken me a while to realize that it's okay to be gay, but I'm too worried that coming out would ruin my life and all of the relationships with my friends/family. What should I do?