#proprioception

Oxytocin (The most famous player)

Released through C-tactile afferents, specialized nerve fibers that respond specifically to slow, gentle touch (about 3-5 cm per second, the speed of a caring stroke).

These fibers are separate from the ones that detect pain or temperature and are specialized for affective touch, distinct from those detecting pain or pressure. They send signals directly to the posterior insula and orbitofrontal cortex, regions involved in emotion, reward, and social meaning.

Oxytocin then dampens amygdala activity, reducing vigilance and anxiety, while promoting a sense of safety and connection. It also interacts with dopaminergic pathways, reinforcing the soothing nature of affectionate contact.

Endogenous opioids (The body's natural morphine)

Sustained, pleasant touch activates μ-opioid receptors — the same system that regulates attachment bonding in mammals. Studies in primates show that grooming (the evolutionary precursor of human cuddling) triggers opioid release, explaining why it induces that warm, melting sensation and literally raises pain thresholds.

Release during sustained touch, can literally reduce pain perception and create that melting, relief feeling.

Weighted blankets simulate this through static pressure, but human touch amplifies it through social context and reciprocity.

Serotonin & Dopamine

Increase, regulating mood and motivation. But critically, they increase together in a specific pattern during affiliative touch that doesn't happen with other rewards.

Affiliative touch synchronizes mood and motivation systems.

Dopamine modulates reward and anticipation; serotonin stabilizes mood and impulse regulation. The co-activation pattern is unique — similar to the neurochemical signature of secure attachment rather than sexual or thrill-based reward.

Cortisol & Heart Rate Variability

Cortisol levels drop measurably after roughly ten minutes of calming, continuous touch.

Heart rate variability (HRV) — a key marker of parasympathetic tone — increases, signaling the body’s shift from “threat readiness” to “rest and repair.”

This is one reason prolonged hugs or cuddles often lead to drowsiness or a sense of grounded calm.

Why Your Body Seeks It

Here's the deeper biological truth: humans didn't evolve to regulate their nervous systems alone. We're obligate social co-regulators (our bodies are designed to borrow stability from each other).

When you're an infant, you literally cannot regulate your own temperature, heart rate, or stress hormones without a caregiver's body. The capacity to self-regulate is learned through early touch — the caregiver’s body teaches the infant’s nervous system what calm feels like.

That imprint never disappears. It just becomes less obligatory. But it remains optimal. Your nervous system still functions better, more efficiently, with access to co-regulation through touch.

The idea of “self-soothing” is often overstated in modern psychology. Biologically, we’re wired to borrow regulation — through touch, eye contact, synchronized breathing, or even the presence of another calm person nearby.

Autistic-Specific Context

Autistic nervous systems tend to operate with:

Atypical Interoception (sensing your own body's internal state) can be less precise, making external sensory input proprioceptive input (pressure, touch, warmth, texture) play a larger regulatory role.

Higher baseline arousal — the system idles “hot,” so sustained pressure or touch to reach the same regulatory effect.

Reduced autonomic flexibility — difficulty switching from sympathetic (“fight or flight”) to parasympathetic (“rest and digest”) states without external cues, making co-regulation through touch not just pleasant but functionally necessary.

For many autistic adults, touch functions not as luxury but as necessary calibration. Without it, the world feels disembodied and cognition floats unmoored from the physical self.

The Starvation Response

When you don't get touch for extended periods, your body doesn't just miss it — it enters a deficit state. Prolonged touch deprivation produces a physiological stress state. Studies on touch deprivation show:

Cortisol dysregulation → chronic fatigue, irritability, brain fog.

Lowered pain thresholds and impaired immunity (studies show slower wound healing under social isolation).

Sleep disturbances, due to reduced serotonin and melatonin precursors.

Inflammatory cytokine elevation, linked to depression and cardiovascular strain.

Touch hypersensitivity upon re-exposure — because the nervous system’s threshold resets too high. (which is why when you finally get it, it can feel almost painfully intense)

This is not metaphorical deprivation — it’s measurable homeostatic imbalance. Your body interprets lack of touch as an environmental threat and shifts into chronic stress mode. Your body starts treating touch like food — when it's scarce, you become hyperaware of its absence. The seeking behavior intensifies. This isn't psychological neediness; it's homeostatic drive, like thirst.

Why Nothing Else Fully Replaces It

Weighted blankets, warm showers, pets — these activate some of the same pathways. But they're missing key elements:

Contingency: Humans modulate their touch dynamically — responding to micro-movements, breath, tension. Machines and inanimate sources can’t. Your nervous system registers this as fundamentally different from static pressure.

Social Context: Context alters neurochemical output. Your brain processes touch differently depending on whether it interprets it as social. A massage from a loved one and one from a stranger produce different oxytocin patterns. The same pressure from a machine versus a human activates different neural networks.

Thermal Reciprocity: The subtle feedback of skin temperature and shared body heat regulates peripheral circulation and metabolic cues. Shared body heat creates a feedback loop that mechanical warmth can't replicate.

Physiological Synchrony: Subconscious rhythm-matching — heartbeat, breath rate, micro-movements synchronizing — your nervous system tracks these patterns and uses them to regulate. This creates interoceptive safety that static stimuli cannot. it's measurably calming.

The Broader Tragedy

Modern adult life — especially for single, isolated, or neurodivergent individuals — has collapsed almost every structure that once offered this biological need. Communal baths, group dancing, grooming rituals, co-sleeping — all mostly vanished. Now, the only socially acceptable forms are romantic or sexual, which means when those partnerships don't provide it either, there's simply... nowhere to get it.

People who lack partners are often biologically undernourished in a way society doesn’t even have language for.

So when you seek touch, your body is accurately signaling a deficit. The deprivation is systemic, not personal failure.

It’s not like I even have aphantasia… we have a strong ability for imagining images.

There’s just no… space.

We exist in a formless void that is also our body and mind.

We have no bodies in our mind to see… but we can feel each others like body langauge and expressions.

Sometimes even feel phantom sensations of body parts our form doesn’t have.. or of one of us touching the body.

It’s… weird.

Made it take forever to realize we were plural… despite everything.

Because without an inner world… it’s hard to separate our thoughts.

Separate who we are.

but autism can effect your proprioception (the sense of knowing where your body part are without looking)

and when proprioception is talked about, people only talk about the milder aspects, like how I cant touch my nose with my eyes closed, and I bump into things a lot.

but the effects arent just that. sometimes, when I wipe after defecating, I miss the area and get faecal matter on my hands. the same thing often happens with urine too.

I also bite the inside of my mouth a lot.

period blood gets all over my hands, especially when I use a menstrual cup (I am allergic to disposable pads, and reusable ones can cause irritation after a while)

I often times don't realise that I'm drooling, especially when chewing on something to stim. this leads to me having a wet spot of saliva.