Finally, something I can get behind!
Hey Dan, Pogotribe, Girlfriends, Boyfriends, Countrymen...
So ever since my freshman year of high school i have loudly and proudly identified as "gayā. This was more of a consetion to the expectations of society than i initially realized. Even a week or two before I came out (during a PowerPoint in tech class where I quite literally sayĀ āHi, Iām Jack, and Iām a homosexual!ā) I had just asked out Shaina, my cis female best friend. See, Iāve always kinda just been more interested in being a relationship than cared about the particulars of who itās with. Sure, There are features what Iām attracted to (short hair, athletic build, āmasculinityā, large penis), but Iāve always considered thoseĀ ānice to havesā rather thanĀ āmust beās. IME, the desire to be romantically or physically close with someone isnāt something I can math out into a neat little equation. If I were to delve into the specifics more, iād probably identify as pansexual, but as I've gotten older I find it far more convenient to sayĀ āi prefer dudes, but love is love man!ā than get into theĀ demagoguery that sexual preference can become.Ā
Identifying your PGP at the beginning of a conversation is NOTHING like asserting your sexuality . One is sayingĀ āit is likely that in the course of this conversation you may make the mistake of misgendering me, and Iād like to protect you and myself from that embarrassmentā, While the other is sayingĀ āIt is likely that in the course of this conversation, weāre gonna talk about who we like to fuck, and I wanna go firstā. Arielle has it right, 100%. Fellow tribe mate, I ask you to consider how you would feel if in every new conversation, you had to clarify your gender in the middle of someoneās sentence. Until weāre at a point as a society where gender is not assumed based on appearances, people are totally in the right to crush those assumptions at the start of the conversation.
Re: LGB Dating T. Like I said, I more closely align with pansexuality, meaning that I am attracted to all genders. A better way of saying this would be to say I donāt hold a persons gender identity particularly high when considering the things that make me attracted/not attracted to them. While it kinda boggles my mind that it is THE defining thing many if not most other people care about, I understand it as a truth which, I think, as we evolve to become a more open minded society, will slowly become less and less normal. Here is where I disagree with Arielle(ās language choice). If a couple is dating, let say long enough to think they might be falling in love, and the simple fact that one party is trans is enough to make their partner drop everything, Iād say weāve got some mild bigotry on our hands. If you need your partner to have a penis, cool. Thatās not a gender thing. If you need for your partner to be able to bare children, great! Not a gender issue. There are Women with penises, and Men with ovaries. As I understand it, thatās kinda the whole point of a lot of Tras-Activism. Sex is what you got going on downstairs, gender is between your ears.Ā
Now if a Male (Cis, Trans, or otherwise) identifies as homosexual, that seems to imply they are primarily if not exclusively interested in people with the same (homo) genitalia (sex organs). Heterosexuals seek different or other (not opposite, learn your Greek) sex parts. If a person does not meet the terms of your sexual orientation/preference, thatās just fine. We often cant control what we are attracted to. But if the thing you find unattractive is the way someone feels about themself, then you, my friend, have some soul searching to do.