#plural tips

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Aah! Ok!! Good to know we really put all our tiny little brains together for this one!! 🙏🙏

And if this is about homework, we actually have a few more tips!

see, earlier we thought you guys were talking about just some internal communication as a preference; something particular and specific, if that makes sense ;-;

BUT if this is a more time-sensitive matter where method doesn’t matter as much then we can give out a few more pointers I believe!

Homework is SUCH a struggle for us, especially in a system that collectively struggles with ADHD and MaDD, but what we’ve always done is get a pen or marker, and write directly on your hand something like, “HEY BRUV, YOU HAVE A MATH ASSIGNMENT, CHECK IT WHEN UR HOME!!!”

this is helpful for simple forgetfulness or an unwanted switch!

we also write directly on the Chromebook, but we don’t know if you guys use a Chromebook

we communicate mostly externally and “telepathically” (telepathically speaking is just using our low memory barriers to our advantage and thinking of something so when the next person switches in they remember what was said and respond to it, rinse and repeat) and we know how much you’d like/need for your memory barriers to go up, and since telepathic communication would jeopardize your progress, these tips are all external

sorry if that’s not ideal, but homework is important, so we wanted to make sure you have your best chance possible!

OMG???? I don't think I've ever gotten an ask like this before??? I'm honored! Handling fakeclaiming online and offline may be very different, so keep in mind that I'll mainly be talking about online fakeclaiming!

Who fakeclaims?

Anti Endos, Sysmeds, and anyone associated with r/systemcringe are all groups who are based around/on fakeclaiming. Anti Willogenic/Tulpa stances as well.

Prevention

It's important to note that it is NOT your fault if you get fakeclaimed. You shouldn't make yourself palatable for ANYONE. If you follow this advice and you still get fakeclaimed, that is not your fault nor will it ever be your fault. Truth is that you can never truly prevent being fakeclaimed since fakeclaiming is apart of ableism. You will be fakeclaimed because people are ableist, NOT because you're too much x or not y enough.

Block the following tags:

anti endo

future is singlet

endos dni

non traumagenic dni

any variants

Remember to block as you encounter

Id recommend surrounding yourself with people who support you and really curating your own experience would help a lot! Any negativity you may experience gets drowned out easier when you remember people like you.

Dealing with Fakeclaiming

Being comfortable in what being a system means to you helps a lot along with being confident on why you use the labels you do (if you use any). If the building is sturdy, no storm can knock it down completely!

I get fakeclaimed on a pretty much near basis because I don't like sugarcoating how much I love being a plural system. When I'm fronting, it's super easy to brush off because I'm sure of my reasons for why I make the posts I do and why I use labels like endogenic, attengenic, etc!

But also keep in mind your own limits. It's okay if fakeclaiming gets to you or makes you feel unsure. You're not weak or any less of a system for being affected by it. If dealing with Fakeclaiming wasn't tough— and it IS tough— then people wouldn't be worried about subreddit and cringe comps.

Laugh at fakeclaiming when you can. Make a joke out of hate anons because let's be honest, you might get some...interesting ones

Remind yourself that your plurality isn't commentary on others experiences. Sometimes you hate something about being a system someone else loves and that's okay! Sometimes it's vice versa.

Remember, Fakeclaiming is ableism , it's also ultimately denial. Fakeclaiming exsists to shut people up about their experiences, especially if they think it's out of the norm or what is considered "healthy" or "okay". Fakeclaiming with never be righteous

And if it turns out you're not actually a system or don't consider yourself one or you want final fusion, that doesn't mean they're right! The experience was still real and so was your experience as a system.

And when you can't handle it on your own, talk to friends or family or anyone you trust really. Join a system community on Tumblr and post about your worries there if they allow it! It's okay to get bothered or upset

Best of luck, dearest anon, I hope you decide whether or not coming out is right for you🩷🩷🩷 no matter the decision, I'm sure it'll be wonderful 🩷🩷🩷

I was reading some articles earlier and realised that there's very few general resources regarding possible religious clashes ,and the general day-to-day communication within polyreligious systems. Bearing in mind this is all objective advice from our own experiences, and certain aspects won't apply to all systems.

General tips:

If any alter has specific religious daily rites or phrases that need to be spoken (all the Abrahamic religions include such phrases and rites, but they occur in other religions too), discuss with the system surrounding what protocol is regarding this.

Setting up a ''religion station'' if you live in a situation where that's possible can be helpful to keep track of everything and provide a space for all your alters to practise safely.

If you have a personal calendar, encourage alters to write down any rites/rituals they need taken care of in the event they aren't fronting.

Subtlety and safety:

If you're bodily in a situation where you feel obliged or pressured to take part in certain religious ceremonies and everyday rites, discuss this with the system and explain the situation. It's always better to choose discomfort over a potentially unsafe situation, generally - but this will be a system-wide decision.

If different members of the system practise different 'structured' religions, look into online worship or religious online communities. All the major religions have easily accessible platforms that you can access discreetly, and all religious holy books can be found for free via google.

If you're still in school, if caught practising something outside of your bodily culture, a good excuse can be that you're researching for a project or culture day.

For Wiccans and witchcraft practitioners, checking the ''broom closet'' tags on tumblr or elsewhere can be a lifesaver - they're full of tips for those who wish to practise discreetly.

If you have alters with different religious dietary needs, vegetarianism can be a good solution - it covers most major religion's dietary needs, and can help cover up any 'inconsistencies'' to the outside world (ie. one headmate eating pork, one eating halal or another keeping kosher.)

For religious pendants/charms, a piece of paper with the relevant symbol can make a placeholder that's easy to destroy in a pinch.

Conclusion:

This will likely be updated as I think of more tips and tricks, if anyone wants to recommend anything, or ask for any specific advice, just let us know.

Like instead of each of us changing the Home Screen like every. Single. Fucken. Day. We can just have different shortcuts saved for the most frequent fronters :D