#pleasecallmesurely

pleasecallmesurely replied to your post “Ableism/mental illness invalidation tw I can’t believe it’s 2017 and...”

I saw those posts and seriously wanted to throw up. Those are things so many people said to me that made my anxiety and depression a thousand times worse and made me feel like I couldn't seek help from anyone because "it's no big deal, there's nothing real I actually need help with" GOD how can someone be so disgusting to say shit like that

Yeah I’m clapping back so hard because it’s literally the exact social scripts that turn people with mental illnesses away from the help they need and make their problems worse.

Not to mention, those nasty little scripts literally scale to diminish and damage ANYBODY. As a therapist I’ve had people say, “Other people have it worse, I have no right to complain about this,” EVEN WHEN they were people of colour and/or women and/or physically disabled and/or LGBT and/or survivors of child abuse and/or survivors of sexual assault and/or poor and/or homeless (and yes, sometimes when they were ALL OF THOSE). Because ~at least~ they had [literally one thing] going for them.

Once you let that poisonous little belief out there, “Mental illness isn’t its own thing, it has to be justified by a level of Suck that is demonstrably worse than what other people deal with” it will mow down anything in its path. You might think, “Oh, I didn’t mean to say THAT deserving person doesn’t get to feel mentally ill,” but once you’ve started that ball rolling? You cannot guarantee that those words from your mouth won’t hit the person you least want to hurt.

Found it! Head Full of Ghosts by furyofthetimelords

i am ALWAYS here to talk abt the haus seder. jack and holster argue abt the haggadah a LOT bc holster loves the old ones that are at the haus (probably belonging alex cohen, previous attic occupant, or an earlier team member) which are technically kids haggadot but they have BEAUTIFUL illustrations and jack has these thick adult ones with all this extra commentary and holster is just like. my dude. half the people at this seder arent even jewish pls just chill. anyway eventually nursey introduces them to this really rad reconstructionist version thats got optionally commentary marked so u can pick and choose what u want to keep in and jack and holster compromise on what commentary they want to keep in and what gets left out to keep the seder from being too long

bitty helps cook a bit but mainly its jack making brisket and holster making his bubbe’s famous matzo ball soup (the recipe is secret, doesnt use actually measurements, and to learn it u gotta marry into the family. its v good. holster like, brings the chicken fat from home (”best chicken fat comes from an old hen” he says to bitty. bitty is just ???) and also the horseradish bc its gotta be spicy guys!!! (”it was spicier last year” he grumbles, EVERY TIME). jack and holster both make charoset and are like, weirdly competitive abt it. nursey brings the gefilte fish from NYC bc citarellas has the best gefilte fish tbh, and he also starts making his own charoset bc holster and jack make it w apples instead of dates?? weird as hell. nursey also makes tagine for them and they start labeling the dishes since he’s sephardic and still eats kitniyot. once tango’s there he’ll make huevos haminados and mina for everyone. for dessert holster makes macaroons and they buy cheesecake and jack makes chocolate covered matzo and nursey makes charoset balls/truffles and bitty really commits to finding Good Passover Desserts and experiments in the kitchen until he can make a parve pie crust and makes like, charoset pie.

everyone gets drunk on manischewitz. nuff said.

IT KILLED ME AND BROUGHT ME BACK TO LIFE ALL AT ONCE