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FRIDAY:

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SATURDAY:

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Atmosphere

Validity

Language

Point 

Goal

So let's break it up real fast for all you guys out there.

Atmosphere first. Now I know this isn't true for all people who bring up Men's rights, but it really matters where and when you bring it up. From what I see, Men's rights is usually addressed directly after a "Feminists suck because," or "Women think they have it so hard, but," or worse yet, addressed on a blog, video, or article that is specifically written to deal with women's rights. Such behavior would be similar if I went up to a transgender blog and said something along the lines of "You think you got it so bad? Try being a REAL woman." It's disrespectful, it's rude, it's intrusive, and most importantly it shows disregard for the issue the other person is facing, something MRA's love to accuse feminists of doing.

Validity. This one is true for both sides of the party, so feminists pay attention too. When people want to make a point they love to spew facts and statistics. As the late and great Mark Twain once said, "There are lies, there are damn lies, and then there are statistics." Anyone can make a statistic say whatever they want a statistic to say, but that does not make it true. The truth of the matter is any number of statistics from any number of sources show the same problems from different perspectives. In some you'll find men are more likely to attempt suicide, but women or more likely to succeed, or that men do worse in school, yet women get worse grades. People cite these issues but don't look into the forces that are ultimately behind these conclusions and instead make up their own reasons why. An example, and I'm only using an MRA issue because this is one I see A LOT, I often see it stated that in a divorce disputes the court will often lean to the side of the mother opposed to the father. People stating this will immediately jump to the conclusion it is because people assume women are better caregivers for children, but the issue is more complicated than that. It is never cited what percent of those divorce disputes are happening because of domestic violence, or child abuse, and when you look at it that way the issue immediately flips in the other direction. So you can't just state a statistic and expect that to make your point for you, do the research and the reading and look at it from the other sides' perspective before you start relying on information that means absolutely nothing in the long run. 

Language. How you say something means a lot. When I respond on the internet to people I disagree with I try to be calm and cordial. I can however not count the number of times I have been cussed out online by people outraged that I would stand up and be a feminist. We're not enemies here. It is not Me Vs. You, we are looking for equality, and if you want me to respect your opinion, than you better respect my opinion as well. And don't give me "feminists don't respect me, so why should I respect feminists." Feminists are individuals, not a hive-mind  and if some asshole feminist is out there cussing it up, than that's her problem. If someone acts rude and obnoxious, you are not suddenly exempt from being a decent human being. Act appropriately when having internet discussions. That means, no name calling, no insulting a person as opposed to their beliefs, and at least trying to understand their point of view even if you don't agree.

Point. Before you post something, ask yourself why you're posting it. For example, when I post something to combat a person I find sexist I do it because I believe the person's world view is troubling, and I would like them to at least add my input to their worldview before they act in such a way. I don't do it because I want to tell them how stupid they are, I don't do it because I think they deserve it, and I certainly don't do it to make cheap shots or jokes about them. Further more, if a person is speaking about Men's Right's as a singular issue, without dragging feminism down into it, I would not hop in to tell them that because they are even discussion men's rights, that they MUST hate feminism, and then yell at them for it. I choose to confront people who have said something that I fundamentally disagree with, or who I believe are missing a valid piece of information when they make an argument. Like right now for instance, that's what I'm doing. Trying to help people get along.

Goal. When you comment on someone's page, your goal should never be to tear them down. It should be to promote something. I promote women's rights and try to encourage the people around me to recognize sexist institutions and to help women achieve equality. I am not a feminist because I want all MRA's to die. I disagree with them on issues, but that is not the reason I chose to be a feminist. The people who support gay rights do not support gay rights because they hate the Westboro baptist church. The Civil Rights Movement didn't happen because people hated the Klu Klux Klan. These movements of equality happen because everyone deserves to be equal, and these people wanted something better. So many MRA's I see on the internet are only MRA's because they hate feminists. They only comment on feminists blogs to tear them down. 

Your goal should be to draw attention to the sorts of things men are forced to deal with on an everyday basis due to their gender, and by extension, you should look at what Trans people and women have to deal with due to their gender. By asking feminists to care about men's issues, you have to take an interest in women's issues as well.