#please learn

Ok, Imagine this:

You're at home sitting in bed. You pick up the book you have been waiting forever to read. The reviews say its amazing, it's by a well known, famous author, and you just cant wait to start reading that first chapter. You open the book and get hooked immediately. As you read on, the character passes by a mirror. A little cliché, but a common way writers tell you character descriptions. Youd think theyd give great detail. The way their hair falls on their shoulders, that spark of hope in their eye, that smile that brightens everyone's day. But no. All it focuses on is her boobs. That's literally it. All it talks about is how "her breasts are bigger than average" and how they bounce and shit. Tell me how she looks, not your sexual fantasies. One thing I will applauded John Green for is his amazing character descriptions, especially in "Turtles all the Way Down." He described Aza's body amazingly, while not making it sexual. And yeah, saying something about then being flat chested is fine, but please go into just as much detail about their entire body as you did their boobs.

I didn’t even realise it at the time and didn’t believe the person when she confronted me about it a 2 years later. I had never intended to bully her so my view was that she was wrong - she was being too dramatic and over-sensitive. 

But I have since realised that just because I hadn’t intended to hurt this persons feelings, doesn’t change the fact that she had been deeply hurt. 

I have always been a quiet and reserved person in a group setting, unless I know everyone really well - and then I can be loud and outgoing. 

My brother (the abusive one I talked about in a recent post) used to be popular and would always joke around with his friends and say mean things to make everyone else laugh. So with my new friends at university, I tried the same thing. I made jokes about one girl in particular and she would laugh along with everyone and I had no idea that I was actually bullying her. 

Looking back, the comments I made were not nice. I had been joking at the time but my jokes were at someone else’s expense. That is a form of bullying. 

•My 90lb pooch will not freeze from being outside in the snow for an hour. She LOVES it

•We arnt "hitting" them. We pat them. Theres a big difference and they love it

•No, I dont bathe my dog every time she gets muddy. She is not a chihuahua and she doesnt even fit in the tub. You shouldn't be bathing your dog that much anyway tbh.

•She loves to play rough, especially tug-of-war. It doesnt hurt her

•You cant limit them from furniture. Our house is their house.

•I will not lock them in a room or outside because you dont want them in the house. It's my house and theirs. You dont like it, you may leave