Common misconceptions about Quiet people/ introverts ...
”Why are you always so quiet?...”
A question asked me to me often and there’s many answers why...
I can’t speak for all quiet people but I’ll speak for myself. Sometimes it hard to express how I feel, what to say
I process, I ponder, and observe, before I say anything- Is what I’m saying or asking worth the words?
Some may perceive this as a lack of confidence, But in fact it’s the exact opposite.
When I speak I speak my truth and I say It loud, well thought out and from the heart. I consider all sides of the scale and rarely am I rash.
Well I’m not an open book.
A new character is a development in process. I like to know their story, their traits, their intentions before they know mine. But it doesn’t mean that I’ll rip them off- some stories just take time.
“Do you lack energy ? Are you dull?”
I’d like to say not at all. I’m a person of very few words but very quick to joke, and a smiley one . I love life- to travel, to read, to write, explore, try new things..
Maybe even on a very energetic night I'll go out to the bar with friends-dance, toast, and celebrate
Is this everyday? No. I’m not always energetic and when I am it takes me time to recover, rest, reflect and rejuvenate.
I’m a quiet person - but I am not unexpressive. I prefer to listen than I do to speak. I’m a supportive person and I listen to my friends, offer them advice and am there for them to lean on. In terms of my individual expression? For me that takes time to really understand and process how I feel, that’s why I’m a poet and a writer. My pen says more often then my voice will.
“Introvert.. or quiet.. both?”
Yes I am a introvert- but I’d also like to point out a common misconception about introverts- some introverts are the most talkative, outgoing people you know. But it’s a concept of how they gain energy and they do that from being alone/ inward expression. So yes these type of introverts are talkative and outgoing but they need time to regain their energy having peace, and being alone.
Personally I don’t fit that category as “talkative introvert” but I would like to spread awareness, to make clear that misconception.
So the point I’m getting at is that some introverts/quiet people have a bad reputation as being “meek” “dull” “lame” “slow” “cold” “aloof” “strange”
That is far from the truth.
Socialization and lack of socialization does not define your sense of worth and value- you can speak a million words, very few, or none at all. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have a lot to say, express, to think, and to feel.
Introverts are the deep thinkers and/or the deep feelers- they are the philosophers, psychologists, the authors, the poets, artists, writers, teachers, counselors- activists...
Scholars, inventors, scientists.. politicians.
Here’s some famous ones to name a few-
Albert Einstein, J.K Rowling, Bill Gates, Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Rosa Parks.
“Briggs Meyers-... “Queen of the introverts”
Also a famous introvert indeed who gave a lot of understanding and meaning to the word “ introvert” was Isabel Briggs Myers author, and co- creator of the of Myers–Briggs Personality type-self-report questionnaire which indicate different psychological preferences and how people perceive the word around them.
If you are unaware of this test I would encourage you to research and take the test yourself- as being “ an introvert” is a very broad category and not one box fits all.-
This test will help determine if your an extrovert vrs introvert . A thinker vs feeler. A sensory type person or an intuitive type. A judger vs a perceiver.
For the Myers–Briggs Personality test I won’t go into too much detail but I’ll just name one example of a distinction. . A thinker vs a feeler. A thinker is someone who typically makes their decisions very objectively, is logical, and analytical and uses facts, and values laws and honesty.
A feeler is someone who is very sensitive to themselves and people around them. They tend make their decisions on their own personal values and beliefs.
So you see not one box fits all -you can be a thinker a feeler or perhaps even a combo of the two.
However, one thing introverts have in common is they are very thoughtful and introspective-
And the the thing with quiet is people is they’re is more then meets the surface.
They are a quiet force of nature-
Don’t disregard a quiet person more often then not they are some of the most kind, thoughtful, intelligent people you’ll meet.
Although you may be soft spoken and quiet, never forget your voice and power you do have 🙏
( Yes im an INFP in case anyone is wondering)
