#personal expectations

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Bri says:

I’m not sure where the rest of this ask went, but I’ll do my best to answer anyway. You’re right, our MS tag is very limited, but I’ve done a bit of research on it myself as it is something that my doctors are looking into as a possible diagnosis for me.

There are a few different types of MS, and so it’s hard to give advice not knowing which one you are, so I’ll try to keep it general. For people who aren’t familiar, Multiple Sclerosis can be any of the following:

Relapsing-Remitting MS (RRMS). About 85% of people with MS are initially diagnosed with RRMS. RRMS has temporary periods called relapses, flare-ups or exacerbations, when new symptoms appear

Secondary-Progressive MS (SPMS). Symptoms worsen steadily over time, with or without the occurrence of relapses and remissions. People with RRMS will frequently transition to SPMS at some point

Primary-Progressive MS (PPMS). A rare form (10%) with slowly worsening symptoms from the beginning, with no relapses or remissions

Progressive-Relapsing MS (PRMS). A rare form (5%) with steadily worsening disease state from the beginning, with acute relapses but no remissions, with or without recovery

The good news is that people who develop MS early in life are actually more likely to have good outcomes. However, like you said, you’re still stuck with a chronic degenerative condition, which takes quite a lot of getting used to. The other good news is that MS is actually quite well known in the general community, so although you’ll still get plenty of advice about how this new diet or supplement will cure you, hopefully you’ll get a fair bit of understanding too.

The most important thing to remember is that just because your life won’t be the same as a healthy person’s, doesn’t mean that it won’t be enjoyable and valuable. Things feel really bad at the moment, but I promise you that they will feel better, although it can be a slow process to get there. I’d start with two steps: 1) Question your expectations of yourself; and 2) Question society’s expectations of you. Develop new expectations of yourself, find what makes you happy, and surround yourself with positive influences. I’m going to put more information about my personal experience with this under the cut.