#perfect bride

Because when you have the weight of your family and society's expectations on your shoulders, you will think you are the weak link, the failing pillar, and are the ruin to the family. You are made to believe you are the sole bearer of the concept of "saving or maintaining face" and if you become The Bruno, your whole family will suffer.

And when you try to be yourself, family or society who have very set ways will eventually tell you to "stop all of this". People say that Turning Red's mother daughter relationship is unrealistic and unrelatable, but we had this before. How to Train Your Dragon has addressed it before. Parental rejection of their kid, telling them that their rebelliousness and true self is a disgrace and the biggest disrespect, their words make your whole world crumble. The fear of being disowned is real.

And despite what lots of people saying how Turning Red had weak emotional scenes and how Brave had a weak mother daughter reconciliation. These moments are so important to kids who have been taught to fit the mold. To be seen, to be recognized that they are a different person, and that they are proud despite straying off mother's made path. And willing to accept their child's flaws and interests. It does not have to be gut wrenching and tear jerking. Because kids who grew up with such expectation, often have suppressed emotions. They might not show the relief or even the denial to hear a parent say these things, and someone who didn't experience this life style might not understand the breadth of it. It can be a big flood gate moment for some, because its a deep yearning desire, but for many these two moments is a subtle feeling, because it is a subtle gesture, a subtle change of the dynamic. Mei is very lucky to have had this heart to heart with Ming at just 13. Hiccup, Merida, Mirabel and Isabella are lucky that their parental figure had made the effort to change and see their kids as who they are and not the sum of their expectations. Many of us, who grew up having to be perfect for family or society, probably didn't get it until well into adulthood, some of us only got after moving far away and cutting ties, and some, still haven't gotten it.

Ming, Alma, Elinor, Stoick....they are not perfect, they were suffocating, they were shitty, yet they were willing to change how they show their love to their child. Ming realized she was repeating the way her mother treated her and doesn't want that. Ming takes the step to break the generational trauma by telling her young daughter.Mei is the youngest at 13. Hiccup and Mirabel are 15. Merida and Mulan are 16. Isabella is 21. And that is very important, it doesn't need an ugly cry moment.

Rebuilding and reestablish the parent-child expectation and relationship is easier at a young age, Mei only started to resent her mother and the expectations placed on her.

The other kids, you could see already had it for a number of years and had been trying for years to be seen.

Take a look! 📌 https://pin.it/1q0l8njiL