#paulscanlonuk

One of the hardest things to do is to love someone where they're at.

Especially when it's somewhere we don't want them to be.

One of the greatest gifts we can give is accepting people as they are without adding our expectations to their burdens.

Who does this make you think of? How can you show up for them today? 

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Some people will only recognise and remember the version of you that they had the most control over.

No matter how much work you've done or how long it's been since you were that version of you.

They don't want to let that version of you go  because it's about their control of you, rather than their genuine love and friendship towards you.

It's time to let those people go from our lives. Who do you need to let go of?

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Empathy is behaving like it’s happening to ‘US’ not just you. It’s finding the ‘WE’ in our common humanity rather than just the ‘THEM’ it’s happening to.

Empathy isn’t about me having experienced the exact same thing you’re going through. 

Empathy is a choice and a skill, it’s about me connecting with the same emotions in me that you’re going through.

Empathy isn’t about fixing anything it’s about being with... it’s about presence... it’s about attention. How can you practice empathy? 

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Good days, bad days, overwhelming days. I can’t do this anymore days, I’m awesome days, I suck days! Just keep showing up. 🙏🏼 @PAULSCANLONUK

I hope that you have had a good month of May. As we enter into June I want to pass on this wisdom about vulnerability to you that I hope adds value to your world.

✍🏼 Very few have earned the right to see your ugly.

Be careful who you're vulnerable with. We all have an ugly version of us.

Very few have earned the ‘PRIVILEGE’ of seeing that private you.

Only show your ugly to people who have trusted you with their ugly.

Betraying someone’s ugly by telling others about it is a deal breaker!

My ugly isn’t yours to share nor yours mine to share.

Vulnerability is based on mutual trust and boundaries.