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Hi! I certainly do. This is something that would fall more into the realm of Shadow Work- I’ll reblog a couple helpful posts for you after this. I would suggest exploring some different shadow work exercises and see what works well for you!

This is something I have struggled with myself, and this spell was particularly helpful for me.

🖤Smoke and Mirrors🖤

A Shadow Work Spell for Self Forgiveness

Note: Shadow Work is highly personalized! Feel free to modify this spell for what feels best for you.

You will need: 🖤a mirror (any size) 🖤herbs or incense or your choice 🖤a quiet room 🖤a small candle

Optional:🖤a moonless (new moon) night 🖤a small, smooth stone🖤a marker

1. On the night of the new moon, sit in a quiet place and gather your thoughts.

2. Light your single candle, and place it between yourself and your mirror. Make sure that you can see yourself in the mirror, and that your candle is the only light around you.

3. Light your incense or herbs of choice, being sure to practice proper fire safety techniques.

4. Stare at the smoke rising. Be sure you can see your reflection behind the smoke, but keep your attention on the swirls and shapes the smoke makes.

5. Relax and unfocus your eyes until everything seems a bit blurry. It may help to focus on your breathing during this time- try and feel your heart beat all throughout your body.

6. Think about what it is you’re trying to forgive yourself for. Think about how the situation came to be, and the choices you made. Do not think about how your choices affected other people! Think about how your choices affected yourself, and if they have shaped who you are today.

**It is important to note here that this is not an exercise to beat yourself up over your past choices. Take this opportunity to think objectively about what you did, and the reasons why you did it.**

7. Focus on your reflection now. Meet your eyes and speak aloud what you were thinking about. Do not look away, do not flinch. Recount the whole story to your reflection! Afterwards- hold your gaze and say:

”The choices I have made, bad and good, have shaped me into who I am. I am not the same person today that I was before, and I will not be the same person tomorrow that I am today. I forgive myself for (the subject of the spell), and I will learn from my mistakes and grow as a person.”

8. Say the words as many times as you need to, all while looking yourself in the eyes. When you feel you have said it enough, and you can feel yourself starting to forgive, extinguish your candle. Repeat this spell as often as needed until you have truly forgiven yourself.

🖤Optional step: each time you complete the spell, write “I am forgiven” on a small stone. Bury each stone outside, or in a flower pot.

Thank you!

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Rule 1 - Post the rules.

Rule 2 - Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post and then make 11 new ones.

Rule 3 - Tag 11 people and link them to your post.

Rule 4 - Let them know you’ve tagged them.

What do you want to be the last song you ever hear?

I don't really know... Maybe 'Who wants to live forever' by Queen for the lols.

Who was your first TV crush?

Feck, I can't remember. Probably some really fit guy I forgot the name of.

If you had a pub, what would you call it?

I don't know this either... But I like pubs that begin with 'The' and refer to an animal, I don't know why. For example, The Black Lion, The White Swan or one of my favourites, The White Bear.

What’s your favourite word?

Favourite word... Hmm. I say 'sweet' a lot. I'll go with that.

Which world leader would you shag if you absolutely had to pick one? (Prime Ministers, Presidents and Monarchs all valid)

Brian Paddick? Mainly because he's already gay... And for his age, he doesn't look too bad?

What is the most ridiculous law in your country/State?

No idea. Probably something like "Don't feed the birds".

If you could never go to either the country or all towns and cities again, which would you pick?

This is ridiculously hard. I love going to the country, as I've grown up in London, but I love small towns and cities too... Not huge ones, such as London. Cities and towns have everything as well... The country is just in the middle of no where, which is nice too in some ways. I think I'd rather never go to the country.

If you had to live in one film or telly programme for the rest of your life, what would it be and why?

GRIMM! BECAUSE DAVID GIUNTOLI IS FUCKING FIT! And the fact that it is the only series I've ever really gotten into.

You can have sex any way you want with one celebrity crush for 24 hours, but a tape of your encounter will be made and there’s a 50% chance it will end up on the Internet. Do you do it?

Oh my god yes. 24 hours. Oh yes. But only one :(

Tell me one headcanon fact you have about me.

Don't know what this means... No one is fucking helpful on here. Assuming this means something I like about you? I'll say, you're really nice, easy to talk to, lived in the most amazing town ever ;) and you should tell me about those 'secret places' in Brighty!

Which fictional character is your spirit animal?

I don't read books... Harry Potter is fictional, right? Everyone says I look like him, so yeah, him.

My 11 Questions:

If you had one day left to live, what would you spend it doing?

What is one of your most memorable memories?

Your house is on fire, what are the three items you save?

If you could only listen to one band for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Would you rather live off of bread or toast?

Would you rather die old and rich beyond belief, but be unfulfilled, or die in a weeks time, but be completely fulfilled?

If you had to lose one of your senses, what would it be and why?

No arms or no legs?

Live in the Arctic or Dessert? And why?

Would you rather leave your home country, and never be able to return, or never leave your home country, but not be allowed to leave?