#oragala

Hi darling,

I can imagine this is a difficult situation to be in, especially because you can’t really explain why it’s bothering you. That way you can’t ask her not to do that because *insert reason*, which means that it can happen over and over again still, causing you to be bothered more and more by it!

I’m not a professional, so I can’t really say what’s happening either. There are a few possibilities that we’re going to walk through, but I can’t say for sure! First of all, I have a few questions for you. When she’s singing in the car, what feelings does it cause you to have? Are you feeling angry, overwhelmed, sad, anxious, etc.? Does this only happen when your mother is singing or does it happen on other occasions with other people as well?

The first option is the one you’ve listed yourself as well- sensory overload. This would cause you to feel overwhelmed and possibly anxious when she starts singing. Being a professional singer doesn’t have to mean that you can deal with everyone around you singing! In fact, I think it might contribute to being bothered by it. You sing yourself a lot already, so when you have some time off from that, you could want a time completely away from singing. Then if someone starts to sing, it can bother you more than it usually would.

The second option I can think of is misophonia. Wikipedia gives the following definition for misophonia (source):

Misophonia, literally "hatred of sound," is a putative disorder of uncertain classification in which negative emotions, thoughts, and physical reactions are triggered by specific sounds.

What you often see with misophonia is that it can be managed with certain people, but not with others. For example if you have misophonia to the sound of hearing people chewing, then it might be that you get really angry when your family members are eating, but with people you don’t see very often it might not bother you as much. This could be due to the fact that the more you hear something, the more you notice small things, which could irritate you more and more if you struggle with misophonia.

The last thing I can think of is that you see the time in the car as a moment to relax and rest, and the singing is disturbing that rest. This can definitely cause you to feel bothered by her singing!

Try to take some time figuring out which of these options could be going on, and if you want to be 100% sure you can always see your GP or local doctor. As a way of dealing with it, you might want to bring headphones with you every time you’re in the car, so that you can listen to your own music and block out her singing. You could also speak to your mum and see if you can agree on something, perhaps she can sing every other car ride? Just a suggestion, you two can probably figure it out best together! I hope things will work out for you lovely and that you won’t be bothered as much by it anymore, because I really understand it being frustrating!

Sometimes what seems impossible, is just hard.

Keep fighting beautiful <3  

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