Itās been a bit
My page always ends up falling stagnant as it never seems to generate any traction but Iāve realized I need this for my own sanity sometimes. This morning I had a 40 year old man in Houston(Iām in northeastern Kansas) message me asking when we could talk. I said very simply āNo thank you.ā He messaged again showering me with compliments. I said āok. bye.ā He came back at me saying I was being rude and needed to calm down. I again told him āIām just said ok. and Bye. I donāt need to say thank you after I already told you no thank you. It seems that you think showering me with compliments is going to convince me to give you another chance. It wonāt. I said no. I meant it. Please leave me alone.ā He tries to tell me that this is all in fun and to chill out. I could tell by his messages he wasnāt going to lay off until I got nasty. It came to that. The jist of that message wasĀ āIām not playing a game with you, Iāve asked you to leave me alone. Now leave me the fuck alone. Your profile says youāre years old yet you act worse than some of the guys younger than me. Grown the fuck upā He came back at me with how he was just trying to make my day and he wasnāt coming at me with get those clothes off and how I need to check myself as Iām too cocky for my appearance and then insulted me. I told him I didnāt want him to make my day I wanted to be left alone. I had to report him twice and then block him. I posted all of the conversation to my facebook. AndĀ even after I posted about the 40 year old, I got a new message from 33 year old who had a single picture on his profile and all he said was "damn sexy are those all natural?" I asked "what the fuck was wrong with you?" and he tried to turn it on me for being rude. I asked is that how you'd approach me if you saw me on the street. Would you walk right up to me with absolutely no context and say that exact phrase? He said he was just tryin to compliment my lips and it wasn't perverted. I said well every message I get on here from strangers that refers to my lips ends up being perverted. He tries to tell me that just cause Iāve gotten just one message that was perverted that not all of them were. I said no 100% of the messages I receive that mention my lips are sexual in nature, He just said Oic. No boy I donātĀ think you do. The second a woman on any dating platform wants just simple basicĀ respect, the sameĀ youād give them in a public setting weāre cocky and rude. But the unwanted messages about our appearance and sexualizing us right away is cocky and rude. You think I want that from you withĀ your profileĀ that hasĀ one photo and its grainy and far away. Or the profile with the guy whoāsĀ 25 with his senior pictures as his profile photos. Boy you are at a minimum 7 years older and could looks significantly different. Shit I looked significantly different from 17 to 25. What makes you think I want to see an old ass picture of you and just think you still look like that. At this point Iām certain Iām going to remain alone and if that means I donāt have to deal with stupidity Iām fine with that.Ā
