It’s been a bit
My page always ends up falling stagnant as it never seems to generate any traction but I’ve realized I need this for my own sanity sometimes. This morning I had a 40 year old man in Houston(I’m in northeastern Kansas) message me asking when we could talk. I said very simply “No thank you.” He messaged again showering me with compliments. I said “ok. bye.” He came back at me saying I was being rude and needed to calm down. I again told him “I’m just said ok. and Bye. I don’t need to say thank you after I already told you no thank you. It seems that you think showering me with compliments is going to convince me to give you another chance. It won’t. I said no. I meant it. Please leave me alone.” He tries to tell me that this is all in fun and to chill out. I could tell by his messages he wasn’t going to lay off until I got nasty. It came to that. The jist of that message was “I’m not playing a game with you, I’ve asked you to leave me alone. Now leave me the fuck alone. Your profile says you’re years old yet you act worse than some of the guys younger than me. Grown the fuck up” He came back at me with how he was just trying to make my day and he wasn’t coming at me with get those clothes off and how I need to check myself as I’m too cocky for my appearance and then insulted me. I told him I didn’t want him to make my day I wanted to be left alone. I had to report him twice and then block him. I posted all of the conversation to my facebook. And even after I posted about the 40 year old, I got a new message from 33 year old who had a single picture on his profile and all he said was "damn sexy are those all natural?" I asked "what the fuck was wrong with you?" and he tried to turn it on me for being rude. I asked is that how you'd approach me if you saw me on the street. Would you walk right up to me with absolutely no context and say that exact phrase? He said he was just tryin to compliment my lips and it wasn't perverted. I said well every message I get on here from strangers that refers to my lips ends up being perverted. He tries to tell me that just cause I’ve gotten just one message that was perverted that not all of them were. I said no 100% of the messages I receive that mention my lips are sexual in nature, He just said Oic. No boy I don’t think you do. The second a woman on any dating platform wants just simple basic respect, the same you’d give them in a public setting we’re cocky and rude. But the unwanted messages about our appearance and sexualizing us right away is cocky and rude. You think I want that from you with your profile that has one photo and its grainy and far away. Or the profile with the guy who’s 25 with his senior pictures as his profile photos. Boy you are at a minimum 7 years older and could looks significantly different. Shit I looked significantly different from 17 to 25. What makes you think I want to see an old ass picture of you and just think you still look like that. At this point I’m certain I’m going to remain alone and if that means I don’t have to deal with stupidity I’m fine with that.
