I become more mentally stable with each queer label I realize I identify with
I am in a WAY better place as a genderfaun, omni-oriented, aroflux greysexual than I EVER was when I thought I was cis, straight, and allo

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I become more mentally stable with each queer label I realize I identify with
I am in a WAY better place as a genderfaun, omni-oriented, aroflux greysexual than I EVER was when I thought I was cis, straight, and allo

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Omni-oriented aroace culture is feeling really detached from the omni community because youāre only omni-oriented, and you donāt even experience sexual nor romantic attraction, and also feeling detached from a lot non-oriented aroaces because you actually want to have relationships and stuff
well hey youāre always welcome and appreciated here even tho you donāt experience sexual or romantic attraction anon!!
omni-oriented aroace peeps (or other oriented aroace peeps)- it would be super cool if you could let us know that you are omni-oriented aroace (like in the tags or somewhere) so that if anon here wants to make new friends like them they could do so (you donāt have to ofc but if it seems like something you would be ok with) :)
Hi! I hope you are doing well. Iāve been questioning if Iām aro and your post about how to tell if what Iām experiencing is romantic attraction was really helpful. I only have one issue. Iāve been looking at things that most people think are romantic and I just donāt see any of them as romantic. Is this aromantic or is this something else? Have I just not thought of the right things? Sorry for bothering you with this. I couldnāt think of anyone else to ask. Anyway, thank you for your blog!
Hello, dear anon! Thank you for the ask!
The moment I read your ask, I immediately wentĀ āaha! I know what theyāre talking about!ā I know at least one thing that could be happening, though there would be something else Iām not thinking of, so please donāt get too frustrated if this doesnāt sound right.
The problem youāve run into is the exact problem I have when I try to think of what I consider to be romantic. I find the ideaĀ of dating to be romantic, but what youāre actually doing while dating? A lot of that... hanging out and crap? I just consider it all platonic. The only other thing I can think of is kissing, but thatās much more sensual than romantic in my head.
One label Iāve found to be really helpful is the label quoiromantic. Itās a super vague label and it covers a bunch of different experiences, which I think is pretty cool.Ā āQuoiā is French forĀ āwhat,ā which when you put it with the rest of the label it literally meansĀ āwhatromantic,ā which happens to be another (older) name for the label, along with wtfromantic.
Since I can never remember all the definitions for quoiromantic, Iāve taken this quote fromĀ https://aromantic.wikia.org/wiki/Quoiromantic, which by the way is a super helpful site.
āQuoiromantic experiences may include:
Being unsure if you experience romantic attraction or not
Being unable to understand attraction as a concept or feeling
Finding the concept of attraction to be inaccessible, inapplicable, or nonsensical
Being unable to pin down a clear understanding of romantic attraction, so being unable to say whether or not you experience it
Having a difficulty distinguishing romantic attraction from other types of attraction, or being unable to distinguish them at all
Questioning romanticism for such a long time that the questioning itself becomes the identity, rather than a path toward any other more stable identity
Struggling with romanticism because it feels too complicated
Simply not feeling that any other romantic orientation label is applicableā
The definition in here that I feel might be of the most help to you isĀ āFinding the concept of attraction to be inaccessible, inapplicable, or nonsensical,ā where you would probably identify most with finding it inapplicable. You just donāt really have anything in your head that sounds romantic, so the termĀ āromantic attractionā doesnāt really apply much at all to you. Itās inapplicable.
Thereās also a bunch of other example experiences in the quote above of people who identify as quoiromantic, and who knows, you might find another one you relate to. I identify with like 3 of them, but you can identify with however many you want.
Some quoiromantic people also identify with another romantic attraction label, like aromantic or biromantic or whatever. Often, when quoiro people identify with another label, itās often what they can pick out of what they feel to be romantic, and maybe still are interested in relationships or whatever. Iām quoiromantic greyromantic and omni-oriented, because from what I can pick out of the little romantic attraction I feel, I sound greyromantic. I say omni-oriented because Iād still like a relationship (probably a qpr), and I donāt really care what the gender of the person Iām with is, but Iām not very gender blind.
If being quoiromantic sounds at least semi-possible, I definitely would consider checking it out a little more online, maybe going to the link above and seeing what else it shows.
I really hope this was helpful!
-Will (she/they)