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I was going to write this in the tags of my last reblog, but I decided against it because I thought this deserved its own post. I know my blog isn’t wwe oriented by any means, but I just want to explain to everyone what Becky Lynch means to me. 

I’ve always been considered a dominant/strong/powerful/confident person. Which is...rare, given my gender. Sure, people praised me for it all the time. “Wow, you’re so brave.” “I wish I could be like you,” ETC ETC.

But it always felt strange to accept those compliments. Because in praising me for those things, they were admitting those traits are not things women are supposed to be.  I didn’t care, of course. But all those people saying they wished they could be like me? They did. 

Becky Lynch is so goddamn important to me because she’s exactly the kind of person who gets those same compliments, and she stands on international television every week, showing everyone women can be strong, confident, dominate. She’s exactly what little girls need to see. Because so many of my friends were trained to sit still, to be pushed over, and they never learned anything different. Even if they complimented me for it, it rarely crossed their minds that they could do the same. 

what does it mean??? how are you HALF joking?? what part is a joke?? do you mean one bit is true and one isn't? how do i tell which part?? do you mean 'i'm joking but... just a little... i really do think this"??? is it more than one???

a lot of the time, pro-queer posts will say this line: "Queer people are not mentally ill". And while that is true--queerness is not a mental illness or a disability and it should not be treated as one--it seems... i dunno, shitty.

TO BE CLEAR, i don't think it's bad because it's saying queerness is not a problem. That part is good!

but i don't like it because it feels like it's throwing queer people who are mentally ill under the bus.

So, shout out to mentally ill queer people. Those of us with anxiety disorders, depressive disorders, personality disorders, dissociation disorders, trauma disorders.

EXTRA shout out to psychotic queer people and mentally ill trans and aspec people; i've seen too many arguments going "they can't know they're queer, they're psychotic! it's just a delusion!!!" or "they're mentally ill so they can't know their gender" or "they're not asexual, they're just traumatized".

You are the sexuality you say you are. You are the romantic orientation you say you are. You are the gender (or genders!) you say you are.

even if you do think it's partially related to your mental illness. Do you think your psychosis influences your gender? That's okay. It doesn't make you less trans. Do you think your trauma does in part influence why you ID as ace or aro? that's also okay. It doesn't make you less aspec. And so on and so forth, for any situation.

And a side note: also shoutout to ND queer people who aren't mentally ill but do get invalidated for their disabilities. Autistic queers, ADHD queers, queers with learning disabilities, queers with intellectual disabilities.

Ableism in the queer community is here, and it's gross and dehumanizing.