Nothing an enby wants more than to not feel excluded from all of their transfem friends and feel like they actually have a Nonbinary community around them.
Unfortunately, the way I perceive gender is that Nonbinary people build their own path, not following many stereotypes, pipelines, and such. Which, unfortunately, feels rather isolating when you have half a dozen transfem friends who all have very similar experiences and who can all connect, bond, and support one another thanks to their similarities.
I'd like to have that too. Maybe an enby friend or two with whom I can connect. "Oh, look at these things we have in common, isn't that cute?". Hearing something like that from time to time would be nice. Being affirmed and validated on being nonbinary rather than being a transfem would be cool.
A YouTuber I like a lot recently went from they/them to they/she, (which to be clear, is ABSOLUTELY valid and I'm really happy for her!!), but it also made me start feeling anxious about the idea that all nonbinary people are just confused transfem/masc people. I know that's very obvious not the case, but that's just how fragile my perception of my own gender is.
I'm so extremely thankful for everything I have, all my friends, queer or not, and my marvelous gf. Sometimes it can really just feel bad to be sitting on the backstage, and unable to connect with others through my gender while all of my closest friends easily share their experiences and build bonds that are so extremely strong and amazing. Making me a bit envious, as embarrassing as this is. Feels like I'm...
Yeah, The One Left Behind. That feels fitting
Oh well, what's an enby to do about it?
