#non-ace

Gold and light gold from aroallo, blue from aplatonic (inverse of yellow or brown, typical colors used to represent platonicity/friendship).

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be with someone else who doesn’t feel sexual attraction

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be with someone they won’t feel pressured to please more because they can’t feel attraction for them

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be with someone they won’t feel they aren’t able to connect with because their partner can feel something they are unable to

Aces aren’t bad for wanting to be in a relationship where they don’t feel inadequate because of their inability to feel sexual attraction

Here’s books I’ve read or own they aren’t perfect and in some cases I might not have even fully read them so read/buy with care!

Artemis: The Indomitable Spirit in EverywomanThere’s also Goddesses in Everywoman which has different gods, even one for everyman. It’s a bit binary and I don’t know if I’d like it as much as I did originally since I as never in love with the Artemis book. But I did enjoy bits like it talking about Katniss being an Artemis archetype.

If Not, Winter by Sappho I joke that this is my holy text because seeing Sappho talk about Artemis and Eros feels very.. I dunno divine to me.

Divine Aces: Asexual Gods and Goddesses is actually part of a book that you can just google and find it’s an article and it’s overall poor in areas but it’s also a joy to see such a big name…mmm easy to find group just be like “Here’s who we think are asexual deities and briefly why.” 

I’ve mentioned I like the Witches’ Spell-A-Day books because I feel like most I could easily use it supply wise or I’d ignore the supplies and still like the words of the spell. 

Literary Witches this one is a literally questionable because it’s using witch as a non-religious and non-spell casting type of person which I feel is fine on a number of levels if not taken super literally. When I first got this I wanted to use it like a funky tarot deck and just flip to a bio when I was lost or seeking guidance. 

Basic Witches - More of a self help book with spells but it’s nice to see it push a sex positive that isn’t just like own your sex drive and mentions non-binary people which is nice since a lot of witchy stuff is focused on women. This still does, but like, it’s still nice to see.

Asexuals who only wish to date non-asexuals are perfectly reasonable and good

Asexuals who date both aces and non-aces are perfectly reasonable and good

People make the mistake of thinking asexuals and sex-repulsed people are one and the same and as such think asexuals=no sex. This is not true and you can have sex with asexual partners the same as with non-aces (aces be sure not to tell people you're ace when you mean sex-repulsed, if you're going into a relationship and don't want sex, say that instead of continuing the misconception that you don't want sex because you're ace), i.e. with consent and a complete willingness

What IS different is that asexuals do not find their partners sexually attractive

You'd be surprised just how vital that can be in a relationship. You may think to yourself that you wouldn't mind if your partner didn't find you sexually attractive, that love was all you needed (especially if they aren't sex-repulsed), but it can wear people down

I've been in enough ace relationships to tell you that it is largely a society-implemented thing. My fellow ace partners were insecure with my inability to find them sexually attractive despite not finding me attractive in that way either. It isn't anyone's fault, but it's something I rarely hear talked about despite how important it is