#no acceptance

Brandon Taylor, from The Late Americans

- Sadly, also my Mum

If that's the reaction to demisexuality...... thank God I'm not gay. (There's nothing wrong with homosexuality, I just know that coming out rarely ends well) I'm hetero. I just have trouble experiencing sexual attraction. It's not a big deal. Which was why I wasn't going to "come out" I didn't think it mattered. "I wish you hadn't told me" Yeah, I wish I hadn't told you either. If I'd know you were going to flat out dismiss my sexuality, I'd never have fucking told you. "You can't be..... there's nothing wrong with you" If and when you realize my sexuality is valid and I'm right, you are going to realize you told me there was something wrong with me. "If you are, maybe I need to put you in therapy" That's almost as bad as straight camp. "But you liked that boy...." Liking a boy doesn't mean I want to jump his bones "...you were jealous..." Because I liked him, but he loved someone else. He waited for her. "... he's not gonna want to marry someone he can't sleep with" I'm not incapable of experiencing sexual attraction. Even Asexual people have sex (not all of them) "I want grand babies" This does NOT mean I can't have kids. "Everyone's like that" This is different. You don't have to understand, I just need you to believe me. "That's just because you're a virgin" Dafuq with this argument It upset you? You upset me. I'm so glad you can sleep while I cry in the bathroom for an hour. It's not fair to expect you to understand fully. I know that, but I expected you would try. I expected you would accept me. But you didn't try. You dismissed me. Who are you to tell me who I am? Who are you to tell me my sexuality? Who are you to tell me I don't know who I am? You are my mother. You told me you'd love me no matter what (I know you still love me) You told me years ago that if I was a lesbian, you'd accept me..... even if it took you some time. You lied. If this was your reaction, thank God I'm not gay. We may not always agree on politics, but I could tell you anything. Even if you didn't like it. I was wrong. Today, I found out that I can not tell you anything. That you will not accept me no matter what. That there is something wrong with me and I need to be fixed. If there are any parents of LQBTQ+ This is what dismissing your child does. It hurts them badly. It rips their heart out. Do not do this to them. If you have, you need to fix it right now. You don't have to understand. You just need to love and accept them.