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Blind loyalty involves being loyal or dedicated to a person, despite the damage that person does to us, or others. Excusing bad behaviour may save face in the short term, but in the longer term, it’s us who will lose out.

It may also involve a form of cognitive dissonance, where he or she sees a problem, turns a blind eye on the truth in favour of keeping a positive image of that person, or cause. Blind loyalty is prevalent in institutions.

It happens in dysfunctional families, relationships that involve an element of control, or coercion. But being ostracised has to be better than staying in a relationship that means life isn’t our own.

When you know something is wrong and you’re acting as if everything is fine, it will end badly. When it comes to blind loyalty the universe will always want to attract our attention, for us to ‘emotionally wake up.’

Blind loyalty shouldn’t mean we go against our values, or bend to the will of another person, just because we want our situation to fit. Right is right and wrong is wrong. The relationship could be fleeting, but as with any encounter, there needs to be consideration and mutual respect.

Loyalty should be mutual and respected. Where loyalty means bending our own values to make our relationship fit, or turning a blind eye, it will only end in tears, our tears. Loyalty shouldn’t mean ignorant obedience.