#negative ask

I actually didn’t build these friendships until my 30s, and my BPD still absolutely affects me.

But one thing I had to learn is that healthy relationships became more possible when I stopped treating relationships like constant tests to prove I’m loved.

I used to spiral, accuse people of not caring, hint instead of communicate, and expect reassurance in ways that overwhelmed people. Even people who genuinely loved me.

And honestly, I had to learn that people are usually more able to show up for me when I invite them in instead of pushing them into a defensive mode with accusations.

That means telling people what I’m struggling with directly. Letting people know what helps. Accepting support without turning it into a test of whether they care “enough.” Learning emotional regulation and accountability. Learning that reassurance doesn’t work if I immediately reject it.

My blog is one very small part of my life. Saying my trauma informs every decision I make is wrong, and honestly rude. You don't know a blogger just because you see their posts. There is a lot of stuff I don't share on here, and would never share on here. There's a lot of aspects about me and my life that aren't shared here.

I have healed. But I use my experience to try and help others.

I understand you are going through your own stuff and that you are likely looking for a comforting answer, but this ask is honestly rude. It's not up to you, or anyone else, to decide how my trauma affects me, my decisions and my opinions.

Do you hate those too?

Based on the fact that you're hiding behind anon and the way you worded this I can tell you just want to start a fight. Fine, I will endorse this for a moment. This is about GENERATIVE AI. Not whatever tf you're talking about.

The thing I hate is the mass theft, spying, child porn and deep fakes. (Oh how the billionaires and famous people LOVE their child porn). I also don't like how this tech is being forcibly shoved down my throat every time I turn around. If I wanted it on my fucking phone I would download it myself, I don't want this bloatware taking up space just to do something I can and would rather do myself. (And yes I'm fully aware tech already spies on us to some degree, but this is just excessive and I'm not into it).

personally I will never understand him as a concept beyond the canon portrayal of his difficult personality and never have I come across any interpretation that does him justice be it in fanfiction or roleplay writing

in the latter, I've met so many muns that tend to over exaggerate a self-victimising aspect for him and making him cry woe is me every second, it's frustrating to write with when he throws a tantrum every ten seconds over the smallest things

even in the series both comic and anime that's all I've ever seen of him like is this fr y'all's man

I also don't know where your whole spiel about "purity culture" came from. If we're going to see characters like Stella and Valentino as abusers, why would we not hold Stolas to the same standard? The show calls them out, but not Stolas? Why are you mad that people call attention to that?

And if you don't like those tags, FILTER THEM. Don't bitch about people expressing dislike of the narrative's direction. Especially because your post had the media literacy of a cactus. Jfc, you come off as so pretentious while also sounding dumb somehow

hello angry anon, im a dumb cactus, go fuck yourself

I shouldnt even b entertaining this ask cuz its bait-y and rude but you dont know jack shit about me and enforcing ppl to only be allowed to resonate or speak about their experiences in the "correct" way

pressures people to out their personal information

and curates a "doctor diagnoses only" environment which is

a whole rabbit hole of a conversation so

tldr

Okay, first off this ask is literally so funny. I’ll address what you said, but I have to get this out of the way first because this is literally SENDING me. Imagine coming on someone’s own blog and saying “You can’t block me because I have opinions and you have to listen to me! I don’t care if it’s triggering or upsetting, I don’t agree with your post so you have to argue with me or else it’s unfair! You are OBLIGED to discuss my opinions with me! Me me me! >:(“ Like,, anon the block features exists for people to block out seeing or reading things that are upsetting or that they just don’t like. No one owes you jack shit and they certainly aren’t obligated to sit down and listen to your points if they don’t want to. In my pinned post I literally said I use the block button liberally- That’s what it’s for. I literally block people on sight for posting hunt/low because it’s triggering for me to see in ways that are personal and that I really don’t feel like sharing with some stranger on anonymous on the internet. It’s none of your business who I block.

Moving past that, my post in question has no “points”. It was in regards to part of the fandom feeling isolated and betrayed at hunt/low possibly becoming canon. Those are personal feelings and aren’t up for discussion. The only “points” to discuss are in my responses to other asks or comments on the post, which makes it pretty clear that you’re probably @/catmatpat or whatever that was arguing with me and I blocked because they were just getting cruel and rude. The way that everyone has in their response “I don’t ship it myself, but-“ is a dead giveaway that you do and you’re just saying that because you know if you say “as a hunt/low shipper” and follow it with something rude you won’t get taken seriously (which youre still not, but). I haven’t seen any anti hunt/low fans actually personally coming after shippers, only the shippers themselves coming after the ones that dislike their precious ship. I literally have mutuals that this has happened to. This is about as bad as the blacksun shippers and the tauradonna shippers in the rwby fandom. It’s not a good look.

coming from a zoomer much?

like imagine being offended because I posted,, what? 3 zoomer related tik toks? Couldn’t be me honestly. That would be so embarrassing for them 😳

Anyways I hope everyone has a lovely day & finds zero legos under their feet except for this anon because they can’t handle a tik tok :^(

I found a facebook meme that pokes fun of zoomers uh oh I hope its not unfunny