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Metamour Day was created to honor the relationships between you and your partners’ partners, however that might look. It is not about forced compersion. It’s about communal appreciation within our family structures and modeling positivity to the world around us. Metamour Day is a recognition of the unique and special relationships between metamours.

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First there was SSC, then RACK... now EPP — Explicit Prior Permission! But why the update?

In June 2021, the American Law Institute (ALI) approved the revised Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault.

The Model Penal Code is not itself legally binding, but it affects state law nationwide. This revision, the first revision to the section on sexual assault since the Model Penal Code's first publication in 1962, will guide updates to state laws. In addition it may be cited in opinions and briefs even in states where the legislature has not adopted the revised Model Penal Code.

The revision decriminalizes BDSM activities in connection with sexual penetration, oral sex or sexual contact, and establishes a framework of "Explicit Prior Permission" that reflects consent as it is practiced in BDSM communities.

Explicit Prior Permission requires that everyone involved is informed of the risks and freely agrees to specific acts and the intensity before engaging in erotic force or restraint. Also, there must be a way to stop at any time, and participants must be over 18 and of sound mind. Explicit Prior Permission prohibits serious physical injury, including permanent marks and impairment, or the risk of a life-threatening injury.

Learn more about Section 213.10 of the Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault (“Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission”) in this video:

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“‘Monogamish is a term that describes a relationship where the primary relationship structure is monogamy, but with some allowance for sexual activity outside the relationship under mutually agreed-upon circumstances,’ says sex therapist Shadeen Francis. ‘You can think about it as a monogamous relationship that has more negotiated flexibility.’”

// NCSF Media Updates are a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of BDSM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or Lifestyle issues and topics.

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“While their relationship is unconventional, Peters couldn't be happier. She insists they are all 'normal and happy' people.

“She told Newsweek: 'I now have two complete relationships that are fulfilling, and I am in love with both of them, I don't feel like I should limit them.'”

// NCSF Media Updates are a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of BDSM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or Lifestyle issues and topics.

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“Gigi Engle, sex and relationship psychotherapist for 3Fun, warns Metro.co.uk: ‘People get confused because they think it means that consent no longer exists, but actually it’s highly negotiated – it’s something that both partners want. There’s still the use of safe words involved.’”

“Colin Witcher, leading criminal barrister at Church Court Chambers, believes there is an ‘inherent danger’ in the agreement.

“‘Rather than being an act of empowerment, this appears to be a dangerous backwards step in terms of equality and safety between sexual parties,’ he tells Metro.co.uk.

“He points out that this is not a moral judgement against those who enjoy the practice, but a caution.”

// NCSF Media Updates are a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of BDSM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or Lifestyle issues and topics.

There is no safe or “safer” way to erotically choke someone.

Louder for those of you with earbuds in:

THERE IS NO SAFE OR “SAFER” WAY TO EROTICALLY CHOKE SOMEONE.

This morning the New York Times did a piece on erotic choking and the studies being done around it. Peggy Ornstien, the author, delves into the trends and some of the research around erotic choking and strangulation on college campuses. She focuses on the work of Dr. Herbenick. For the NYT, this is actually a pretty decent article around sex, specifically BDSM.

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“According to the American Academy of Neurology, restricting blood flow to the brain, even briefly, can cause permanent injury, including stroke and cognitive impairment. In M.R.I.s conducted by Dr. Kawata and his colleagues (including Dr. Herbenick, who is a co-author of his papers on strangulation), undergraduate women who have been repeatedly choked show a reduction in cortical folding in the brain compared with a never-choked control group. They also showed widespread cortical thickening, an inflammation response that is associated with elevated risk of later-onset mental illness. In completing simple memory tasks, their brains had to work far harder than the control group, recruiting from more regions to achieve the same level of accuracy.”

// NCSF Media Updates are a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of BDSM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or Lifestyle issues and topics.

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“Therefore, this is why, as Midori suggests, it always a good idea to ask a current or potential new partner what exactly they mean when they say: ‘I’m a submissive’ or ‘I’m a bottom’ — and really listen to their explanation, because all too often people make the mistake of assuming that expressing sexuality is a uniform experience or undertaking when this is not the case.”

// NCSF Media Updates are a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of BDSM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or Lifestyle issues and topics.