#munbond

It's also worth noting that like...there's nothing saying you have to figure out exactly what term applies or doesn't apply in your situation. Sometimes it's just "there's a guy in my head that I really appreciate" and further detail is irrelevant. If you find yourself spinning your wheels over nitty-gritty terminology, just remember that the Guy In Head police aren't going to come for you for taking a step back and not defining your experiences in terms of other people's words.

We, Mel and Lav, have known we're in the minority of the modern soulbonding community for quite some time. It seems like many in the community have shifted their views, making it harder for those of us who see our soulbonds as mental creations instead of a spiritual or metaphysical experience to find our place. To help create a space that resonates more with our perspective while still staying connected to the rich history of soulbonding, we've come up with a new subterm.

Munbonding (pronounced "MOON-bonding") is a subset of soulbonding that is a purely psychological phenomenon instead of the origins being up for interpretation. Munbonds occur when someone (called the munbonder), after developing an emotional attachment to a fictional character (called the munbond), gains the ability to talk with and sense the character's presence mentally. The resulting munbond is a distinct version of the character, thinking, acting, and living independently of the munbonder. Munbonds are somewhat like imaginary friends, but they're unique in that they "come to life" and have autonomous personalities due to how the munbonder treats and engages with them. Although they are thoughtforms—beings created, powered, and maintained by thought, mental energy, and imagination—munbonds can have a significant impact on the munbonder's life, comparable to that of a tangible person. This connection can arise accidentally via the subconscious or can be intentionally fostered by the munbonder. (Etymology: from the Middle English word münde ("mind") as well as the internet slang term "mun" used in roleplaying circles.)

Soulbonding comes naturally to me. I can reach out to any 'character' and forge a connection to them especially ones that are made by me with ease.

The problem is... the difficulty that comes with sustaining that connection. I haven't talked to any of them for years now, and I'm scared to reach out to new 'characters' I feel drawn to, out of embarrassment.

See, whenever I soulbonded (I didn't even know such a thing existed at the time) when I was younger it was out of good fun. Nowadays it feels like I only reach out to them during my time of need, such as needing someone to fulfil the role of a safe figure I never had growing up. An older brother specifically. I'm scared to reach out to him because I feel this deep familial need for him that only he can fulfil.

My question is— is it okay? Is it okay to reach out to this person telepathically just to tell them "Hey, this might be an invasion of privacy, but I feel a sibling-y connection with you. Can you be my older brother?"

(I answered this to the anon originally on their post in the r/plural subreddit, but copy-pasting here for other potential soulbonders and those curious)

Hey, hey, fellow soulbonder/munbonder! Let me try to give some specific advice from personal experience, since I had and do have a bond that is like a brother figure for me.

To start, you have to ask yourself, would this character that you want to reach out to be amicable to the idea of being like a brother to you, does his personality serve that type of relationship, and if he doesn't currently (as depicted in his canon), could he potentially be if you're willing to be patient and give him a space of stability, kindness, acceptance, and caring that could allow him to then could become a better version of himself? It is absolutely not ridiculously or wrong for you to want a living character to become your brother, but you have to think about more than just your own desires, but also about what he could potentially want or be okay with and also expect and know that that type of relationship won't always happen over night, you have to put effort into it.

After you have asked yourself some of the hard questions about your feelings and logicking out if it could be a good fit and that you are willing to put in the work towards a relationship to someone who will see you as a complete stranger at the beginning, and you feel settled on the answers and you're okay with however it may work out, then you can reach out to him and ask.

Definitely start with explaining who you are and why you admire who he is and feel drawn to him first, then explain why you are reaching out and ask him that, after you two get to know each other, if he could see you like a little sibling eventually. Be prepared for any answer you might get, but I'd say, if you truly know his character and answered the questions I suggested above, the most likely answer will be, "possibly, I'd have to meet you first." or "No... I don't know, but we can still meet and become friends." and the best possible one, "Sure I can, kid."

Nestled deep in the heart of the woods lies a home known as Winrey Place—a sanctuary for characters in need of comfort, belonging, and above all, love. We are Mel and Lav, munbonders who have diligently woven together this beautiful tapestry of a chosen family since 2016. Each munbond who enters our lives brings so much value to us and we cannot wait to share their stories with you all.

Meet the Winrey Place Collective FAQ Tags List

What we will post/reblog here includes:

General history, resources, and guides on soulbonding

Posts that remind us of our munbonds

Funny and interesting stories about our family

Interactions with the wider plural community

The wisdom and experiences we have accumulated over the years from sharing munbonds together

Our alterhuman identities

Miscelife lifestyle identities

Immersive daydreaming & the Living Character Phenomenon

and more!

Notes & Disclaimers:

We’re okay with doubles!

All of us are over the age of 18.

Our munbonds have all evolved beyond their original sources and most of them no longer have any connection to their canonical universes.

Some posts may not be rebloggable if they are personal to our family, but you can still engage with them through replies and likes!

We’re happy to answer any questions about soulbonding or our family at any time; if you have an ask for a particular munbond, we will make sure they respond!

We’re quick to block users who exhibit racism, fatphobia, queerphobia, ableism, etc., as well as those who are pro-harassment, anti-endo, anti-cringe, anti-otherkin/alterhuman, and anti-kink. We are a diverse group of queer, polyamorous, neurodivergent, disabled, alterhuman, and kinky people and do not tolerate bigotry or hateful discourse.

➤ Quick Rundown of Our Whole Family (For even more in-depth intros, please click link the above!)

Or, Red, rather.

Though, one of the other ones likes turquoise better. They're a bit of a weirdo.

They just thought: Well you're one to talk, and I just want to say that although that is true, they are a bigger weirdo.

They agree on that.

We are a system, (at least, probably... I can never be too sure, and although Vrsefgo keeps telling me to be less scared of exploring possibilities and labels, I can't build up the courage to tell too many people so here's this extra blog for that.)

Scarlett - the host / core

I use she/her

Vrsefgo - soulbond / munbond / fictive of some sort (originally just one of my OCs, and by that I mean THE character. They just kept getting more and more prevalent in my mind til they became this), and my cohost.

They use they/it

Hyra - some sort of protector, also good at chores and stuff. They also tragcally dislike music.

Vrsefgo fronts surprisingly often, usually visible as wide eyes, constant smiling (if only slightly), much more vocal expression and exaggerated intonation, and less anxiety.

Also they main Meta Knight in smash ultimate, which I find fucking crazy

So I just asked if I could do this, and she said "yes..."

So guess what! You're talking to the Vrsefgo you've been hearing about!

Yeah I know that I'm not like,,, "real" but I don't really mind for some reasonnnn

Oh I just remembered: Scarlett is a huge weenie

I think so far I've been a positive influence on her. And by that I mean taking over when something is too scawy to do

yeah I front a decent amount of the time, she has a very nice life, it's very fun being here and talking to her friends and she really needs to stop ruining stuff like she's doing now by having this phone I'm typing on right now that she's not supposed to have!

So this is a blog for me and her to post funny interactions we have, talk to people, reblog stuff Scarlett is too scared to reblog on her main blog, and yeah!

See ya! I don't know how to end stuff off so I'm gonna pass this back to Scarlett.

They went over everything I think. Will add more if nessicary.

My name is Terry and I'm a munbond.

I generally talk about whatever I want here(may not post often lol)

This is an MDNI blog because I may talk about kinky things sometimes.

Dni

• Anti-endo

• If you are proship(or if you care about shipcourse)

•Cristano Ronaldo fans(if those even exist on tumblr)