#modding drama

I went to give someone, criticism for their poly mod (For stardew, mind you), as I am polyamorous and how I only wanted a poly mod to date my Irl partner and a npc, the mod creator added a NPC that made no sense, in the context of how it's meant to replace free love, and be a better version. I did not want a Poly mod + new NPC. Won't state who I gave this criticism too, especially the mod creator, as I don't want to fuel any fires, but all of a sudden the mod creator guilt trips me, misunderstands my criticism for being just hateful, when all I did was give this person polite criticism, and this guy simp comes along and starts berating me as if I don't understand how polyamory works, and proceeds to mansplain to me how it works, as if he's ever BEEN in a polyamory relationship. news flash, I am in a polyamory relationship. I know how it functions because I am literally a lesbian. :| afterwards multiple people came to defend me, but honestly I didn't wanna bother getting notified that some horny men liked the skimpy character and that I was threatening their masculinity that I just deleted my comment. (what I mean by this, is; I just.. made my comment blank, I am not dealing with childish remarks on a farming game :|) I fucking hate nexusmods because of this. and now I understand why they got into hot waters for many years. I love the stardew valley community, but the amount of horny ass and uncomfortably weird people that step over boundaries is just.. disgusting. especially in the nexusmod space. they treat it as if, everyone wants to be sexual and LGBT+ means sex for hours, when there are literal ACE players who want mods that just allow them to date the people they like, minus sex. Most of the people that got that poly mod, were ace. they didn't want a oversexualized woman to talk to them. they just wanted to date Abigail from Stardew AND Sebastian. and have a good time. instead this NPC implies they fucked Abigail, when Abigail's vanilla cutscenes WITH a woman player mind you, suggests she's never had sex at all, (You don't need to state that anyway), nor had a crush on a woman before, until you came along. So this NPC makes no sense and it's just stepping over a boundary, but I guess that'll hurt someone's feelings?, that not everyone on planet earth is horny???, people are weird, I tell you. Yes, you don't have to install something that oversteps your boundary, but if you JUST wanted to date three people, why should I feel ashamed for calling out the randomly added sexual stuff, that I didn't sign up for?, especially when the mod wasn't overstepping a boundary until they decided; "Let's add my oversexualized OC!!!"