Hi, I was wondering if you had any advice on accepting your aro-spec identity? I've been struggling for a few years and I think it's due to a fear of being left beind. All of my friends are allos and may get romantic partners one day and I'm scared of ending up without any close relationships.
my #1 piece of advice is: remember that whatever society tries to tell you, romance is NOT the end goal. find things that fulfil you and make you happy in your day to day life, because being 'left behind' doesn't feel like a tragedy anymore once you realise that you're pretty damn cool all on your own
about your friends - try discussing your worries with them, either before or shortly after they find themselves with a partner; let them know how much you value them and don't want to lose them! often the excitement of getting into a relationship makes people thoughtless and they don't actually want to cut you out of their lives or leave you behind - they just may need reminding that the world exists outside of their partner. And it sucks that that's the case but with any luck having a clear conversation about it will help to avoid your friendships breaking down.
