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16.  Which is your favorite friendship?

Sparia!!!

Thank you!

[see this post for relationship tips]

ENFP (Ne-Fi-Te-Si) + ESTJ (Te-Si-Ne-Fi)

Potential for Conflict:

Ne: ENFPs value exploring ideas and possibilities, whereas ESTJs tend to be more resistant to new ideas or change. Thus, ENFPs might see ESTJs as rigid, unimaginative, or boring, and ESTJs might see ENFPs as scattered, impractical, or unpredictable.

Fi: ENFPs tend to be attuned to their own individual experience, whereas ESTJs have more difficulty understanding or processing their own private needs or emotions. Thus, ENFPs might see ESTJs as cold, neglectful, or repressed, and ESTJs might see ENFPs as overemotional, melodramatic, or self-absorbed.

Te: ENFPs can use Te defensively to be overly pushy or assertive, which might strike ESTJs as overbearing, combative, or overwhelming. ESTJs value structure, order, and predictability, which might strike ENFPs as stodgy, inflexible, or harsh.

Si: ENFPs have difficulty with routine and stability and implementing detailed plans, which might strike ESTJs as disorganized, lazy, or undisciplined. ESTJs tend to be detail-oriented and prefer well-established knowledge or strategies for problem solving, which might strike ENFPs as uncreative, too conventional, or nitpicky.

Both are extraverted and might not take enough time for introverted or reflective activities.

Opportunities for Growth and Balance:

This pair could complement each other well if they could learn from each other’s strengths and compensate for each other’s weaknesses. ENFPs could learn from ESTJs to be more stable, reliable, organized, and goal oriented. ESTJs could learn from ENFPs to be more open to new/creative ideas and be more in touch with their own needs/feelings.

ENFPs should realize that ESTJs require more structure and routine, so help them maintain order and fulfill your responsibilities reliably. ESTJs should realize that ENFPs tend to be more spontaneous and adventurous so be more open to exploring ideas and activities with them, and be more flexible in your expectations.

ENFPs should realize that ESTJs are not always in touch with how they feel and have difficulty expressing their private side to others, so be more patient in giving them time to process emotions rather than just assuming they are cold or uncaring. ESTJs should realize that ENFPs listen to their own inner voice and have a tendency to want to share or express with others, so do not judge them as self-absorbed, oversensitive, or unstable just because their feelings are closer to the surface than yours.

ENFPs should understand that ESTJs can be sticklers for little details, so take more time to learn about and be careful with what they deem important or valuable. ESTJs should understand that ENFPs are more focused on general ideas and future possibilities, so they can be inadvertently careless with daily things or details; try to be more understanding rather than criticizing them too harshly.

In terms of conflict, ENFPs and ESTJs approach disagreements quite differently, so it would be important to learn how to express dissatisfaction or negative emotions in a way the other can understand. ENFPs tend to be indecisive and conflict avoidant, and ESTJs have difficulty with emotionally charged situations and do not like to feel accused or incompetent. Try to work around these sensitivities.