50 Days of Fetishes Day 46: No- Win conditions.
A lot of my fetishes are pretty switchy but this is something I only like when topping. Some of my best dominant feelings come from putting someone in "no win" conditions- psychological predicament bondage.Â
A partner reminded me of this earlier today when they mentioned a scene we did. They helplessly fell into trance anytime they were more than 3 feet from me. ("Psychic" leashes=super great.) I had them follow me, made them kneel, then commanded them to follow me again- while practically sprinting away. When, I woke them back up from their inevitable trance, I had them apologize profusely for "failing" to keep up, making sure they FELT really, really sorry in the moment.Â
The apologizing was the best part- the mindfuck of having someone apologize and FEEL deeply apologetic in the moment about something they had no real control over. I wouldn't do this with everyone- it takes the right partner- but this play is great, especially mixed in randomly with giving difficult but do-able commands.Â
The best versions of this- and I haven't done as many of these as I'd like- look like "forces" in stage magic. Forces are stage magic tricks where it seems like audience members have multiple options but in reality there's only one real choice.  (Good article here- https://discovermagazine.com/mind/use-the-force-how-magicians-can-control-your-decisionsâŚ) Setting up a good, subtle force in play is something I aspire to- I feel generally way too obvious about my no win conditions when I have them.
 Having the no-win be obvious is it's own fun too, though- as well as forcing an apology when someone knows you're being deeply unfair just because you can. Similar to this, I also love making someone beg for something-and then making them beg for the opposite thing over the course of the scene. The nuances of how this can feel are so varied- genuinely convincing someone they want the opposite thing over the course of a scene, having someone know they want the opposite thing but they're compelled to beg for what YOU want anyway because being obedient feels more important, giving someone the "passenger in their body" feeling of wanting to beg for one thing while their hypnotized mouth begs for the opposite, etc.  I'm not particularly sadistic as a dom but this kind of emotional play is DELICIOUS.
 Since I'm writing about this on my public blog, I do want to say this kind of kink can get into heavy gaslighting and abuse dynamics (apologizing about something you have no control over is incredibly common in abusive relationships) so I'd encourage people to know themselves, know their partner, and be very thoughtful about safety/risk here w/this play.Â
 With that out of the way- I'd love to hear stories! Anyone have any related media to rec or stories to share?














