Hey! thanks for the compliment, it brightened my day. I hope that my advice does the same for your day. The truth is almost everyone has some kind of insecurity, you just gotta change how you look at and minimize it as much as possible. Things that will help is 

1. Realizing that everyone has them so you are not weird

2. See it as you being more conscious/self aware and not being weak. 

3. Realize that your insecurities are not who you are and you are so much more than that. 

4. WATCH your thoughts, make sure that the insecurities don’t consume your thoughts. 

Now when it come to you looking for men to fight for you and help you overcome your insecurities, that’s a little different. The fact that you struggle with insecurities means that you probably are attracting men into your life that are probably going through the same issue on some level. Its most likely too hard for them to handle your issues and theirs, so don’t feel bad about it. The Truth is if you fight to overcome your insecurities you will find men than will come along side you and help you in that fight. You can’t look for people to do things for you that you are not trying to do for yourself. So Don’t feel down you can still find Love and a Man that will fight WITH and for you. 

Also don’t feel bad for seeking outside validation from outside sources, all humans do it. Just be aware of where you are getting that validation from. I for example look to My Creator for validation, and that is an outside source that never fails me. 

I hope my advice helped. I know it is a lot, but I Love you and want to best answer your questions. Stay blessed and beautiful my sister.  

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