Hey love,

A number of us have messaged her letting her know how much we care and that we want to help her and that we love her. She isn't replying to all of our messages but she knows we are all here to help her.

If you are still concerned her ask box is still open so you could message her directly and let her know that you care too.

Thank you for your concern.

Take care,

Olivia

(Alixandria pt 2) When I'm at home and my mom's there she always offers to go and see that there's nothing there but sometimes I'm too panicked to go looking at it. I also have troubles sleeping. This thing started when I got kind of sad all the time because of all the stuff going on in my life. I don't know what this is and what I should do to calm myself? Because after it I know it wasn't real but at that moment I'm really scared. Thanks in advance! (please tag this Alixandra!)

Hey lovely,

That sounds really scary, I’m sorry you have to go through this. I think it’s good that you know these silhouettes aren’t real, although I know that doesn’t mean that they aren’t scary. It’s also great that your Mum is being understanding and that she helps by checking that nothing is there for you.

It sounds like it is really affecting your functioning, which makes me think that it is important for you to get some professional help. I think talking to your Mum about this would be a good place to start, you could tell her that you want help to work through what’s happening and then you could both go to the doctor and explain your symptoms. Your doctor can then refer you to a therapist who will be able to help you work through everything that’s happening for you.

In terms of managing in the moment and calming yourself you could try some grounding techniques, there is one in particular I think would work for you in these situations and that is saying grounding sentence such as ‘My name is … I live at ……… and I am safe’, repeating this over and over might help you feel safe and calm. You could also try some self soothe strategies like having a bath or a nice hot chocolate.

Take care,

Olivia

Oh and massive tw for a bunch of stuff on that blog. I just really want her to be okay but not at the expense of your guys's mental health too. -Twyla\

Hey lovely,

Thanks for letting us know <3 we have contacted her and we are making sure she is okay.

Take care,

Olivia 

Hey lovely, 

You're welcome :)

We do have your submission in the inbox but we are a little backed up at the moment, however we will get to it as soon as possible.

Take care,

Olivia

Hey lovely,

We do have your ask however we are a little backed up at the moment so we will get to your question as soon as possible.

Take care,

Olivia

Thank you for sending this in lovely. You are completely right not killing yourself when you want to is a massive achievement.

You can do this as well beautiful <3

Take care,

Olivia

Hey lovely,

Birthday’s can be horrible days for some of us. I think a lot of people go out of their way to say something to us on our birthdays. It’s kind of become the normal in our culture to make a big deal of people’s birthdays, when in reality it’s just another day and like you said people do exist on every day of the year not just their birthdays.

Just because people aren’t paying attention to your birthday does not mean in any way that your time on earth is done. Honestly high school can be such a petty place and can make us feel horrible most of the time for no good reason. Once you get out of high school and begin to discover who you are and what your passions are you will know why you are still alive. There are so many things you have yet to discover in live. I am sure that you have made a difference in other peoples lives already and that you will continue to do so which is a great reason to live. We have a list of reasons to stay which might be helpful for you to have a look at.

If you are thinking of hurting yourself I think it’s important that you get some support. If you are in immediate danger please go to the local emergency room and if you need some help getting there you can call emergency services to help get you there. There are also a number of helplines and web counselors who might be able to help. I think trying to get some treatment would be helpful, we have a page all about getting help here.

Take care,

Olivia

xo

Hey lovely,

We did get your ask and will get to it as soon as we can.

Take care,

Olivia