If ever I will have a boyfriend . . .
We date because we plan to marry someone. We date for a purpose. We date to search more into the soul of a person. We enter into a relationship because we see potential with them to spend our eternity. We should not date for fun, we should do it in the Lord’s way and purpose.
If ever I will have a boyfriend, my mind set will be very different in the standards and culture of the society. Having the fullness of Heavenly Father’s love and the gospel of Jesus Christ has changed my perspective very much. For me, the moment I will say my yes to a guy as my boyfriend is also the moment that I have chosen him to be my companion in preparation to temple marriage. Just like when you plan to be a doctor. You need to have your preparation course. When you plan to cook, you have to but the ingredients first. When you plan to marry inside the temple and you had chosen one individual to have it with, you need to have your preparation.
For me dating or having a boyfriend is not all about hugs and kisses, dates or sweet messages. It is also about doing Heavenly Father’s purpose for love to exist and relationship to come between a man and a woman. If ever I will have a boyfriend, I will tell him that we should have time to study the scriptures and read about Eternal Marriage together. Eternal Marriage because that is our purpose and that must be our destination. We should put up always in our minds what is our purpose of having a relationship. I want us to grow together spiritually even before temple marriage. We should treat each other well and always with love, effort, sweetness and care. I want us to follow the Lord’s standards in dating specially not doing the sacred power of procreation outside marriage. We should be a team to help each other overcome things and learn more about Heavenly Father’s commandments and love for us. We should collaborate. We should be in the church together always. We should show Heavenly Father that we are worthy to marry inside the temple and to do the task he commanded Adam & Eve. God has a purpose why man and woman is attracted to one another and why he made them. He implanted this attraction in us for his plan of salvation to grow and progress. Because of this attraction, more of his spirit children will have the chance to have their probational life and his plan of salvation goes on.
So what are my standards?
I want a Returned Missionary. A man who comes after his mission is a different man. I believe that returned missionaries have spiritual learning and experiences that caused them to grow their love the the Savior.
I want an active member of the Church. I also want a guy who takes the scriptures and the talks of the prophets seriously.
I want a family oriented guy. I want a guy who treats his parents and siblings with love, sweetness and care. I want a guy who respects his family and has a big concern about them. This will reflect on How is he going to be a father and husband someday.
I want a sinner but repents and strives to be better. You do not find perfection but you must see a willing and fighting soul.
I want someone who observes the Law of Chastity. He must be chaste in his words, thoughts and action. He must know the sacredness of procreation, sexual feelings and stuffs. He must treat me with respect. He must always see me as a daughter of God.
I want someone who fasts and pray. I believe that if a man makes this his practice, he becomes closer to Heavenly Father.
I want someone who is Kind, Gentleman and sweet. Someone who has high temper and does not shout (I’m so sensitive) Someone who will court me everyday. Someone who will do everything for me. Someone who will see me as a gem and also do it in actions to prove to me that I really am. Someone who knows what I deserve. Someone who is anxious about me and so concern. Someone who can be with me thru ups and downs.
I want someone who dreams big and hopes for a bright future. I want someone who have goals in life.
I want someone who knows the attributes and teachings of Jesus Christ and strives to follow it to become like him.
Someone who will correct me with my wrong doings.
I want someone who has a big heart for the people. Who follows the most important act of the Savior which is charity.
I want someone that can also be my best friend. Someone I can goof around, laugh with and make fun with. Having a lover and a best friend is the best!
As I set my standards, I also strive to be worthy of whoever priesthood holder is that guy. I believe that Heavenly Father matches people perfectly and he will give you what you deserve. According to your faith, hard work to follow his commandments and how you strive to have a virtuous partner. :)