#menarenottheproblem

(EVEN IF THEY PRETEND THEY DON’T)

There’s a strange paradox in modern society.

People love to shit on masculinity.

They blame it for wars, crime, aggression, and societal collapse.

They call it “toxic” while enjoying every single benefit it provides.

They demand “soft, emotional, sensitive men”—but won’t date them.

And here’s the dirty little secret:

Society DEPENDS on “toxic masculinity” to function.

The same people screaming about "fragile male egos" are the first ones to call a strong, competent, aggressive man when shit goes down.

And when the floodwaters rise? When the criminals break in? When their car breaks down in the middle of nowhere?

They don’t call a male feminist with a rainbow flag and pronouns in his bio.

They call a "toxic man"—someone society spent years trying to neuter.

And that? That’s the hypocrisy I’m about to gut-punch straight into oblivion.

Let’s get into it.

WHAT THEY CALL “TOXIC MASCULINITY” IS ACTUALLY WHY CIVILIZATION EXISTS

🔹 The skyscrapers you work in? Built by men with calloused hands, broken backs, and zero complaints.

🔹 The bridges you drive over? Engineered, constructed, and maintained by the “patriarchy.”

🔹 The emergency responders saving lives? 99% male.

🔹 The soldiers who protect your borders? 97% male.

🔹 The garbage men keeping disease from spreading? Almost all men.

Masculinity isn't toxic. It’s what keeps modern society from collapsing overnight.

But we don’t talk about that.

Instead, we tell men:

❌ “Be softer.”

❌ “Be more emotional.”

❌ “Be more feminine.”

And then we mock men for actually doing it.

Look at what happened when men listened:

Men stopped being aggressive. Now, women complain that modern men are “weak.”

Men stopped taking risks. Now, women complain there are “no real men left.”

Men stopped leading. Now, women are depressed because they “can’t find masculine men.”

The irony? The men who actually embody “toxic masculinity” are still winning.

Women want them.

Men respect them.

Society needs them.

The ones who “toned it down” got left behind.

And that brings me to the next lie modern society pushes:

WOMEN DON’T WANT THE “SOFT MAN” THEY SAY THEY WANT

Every time I hear a woman say, “I want a man who’s in touch with his emotions!” I already know she’s full of shit.

How do I know?

Because the data proves it.

📌 Tinder and dating app studies: Women swipe right on less than 5% of men—and they’re always the most aggressive, dominant, high-status ones.

📌 Marriage studies: Women file for divorce 80% of the time—often complaining their husbands are “too passive.”

📌 Relationship studies: Women lose attraction to men who cry too much.

And yet, the narrative is “Men need to be softer.”

No. They don’t.

They need to be capable.

Because the second a man shows too much vulnerability, what happens?

Women call it “the ick.”

They pull away.

They lose interest.

They look for another man—one who doesn’t break.

That’s not sexism. That’s biology.

And I don’t blame them.

A masculine man makes a woman feel safe.

An overly emotional, fragile man makes a woman feel like SHE has to be the man.

And guess what? That kills attraction.

The most feminist, pro-woman, “down with the patriarchy” women still dream about being ravaged by a Viking warrior, a mafia boss, a cowboy, or a billionaire with full control over every situation.

They don’t write books called “Fifty Shades of Crying.”

They want dominance, confidence, and strength—everything they claim is “toxic.”

So why the hell should men listen to the opposite of what actually works?

They shouldn’t.

THE WORLD ONLY SHAMES MASCULINITY UNTIL THEY NEED IT

The same people calling masculinity “toxic” have no problem demanding it when convenient.

When a woman is in danger, she wants a strong man to protect her.

When a fire breaks out, people want brave men to run inside.

When war starts, everyone wants a tough man willing to fight.

When a country needs rebuilding, people call masculine men to do the heavy lifting.

Society shames the men who built the world.

But when shit hits the fan?

Nobody calls a soft man.

They call the exact type of man they’ve been demonizing.

And they always will.

So what’s the takeaway here?

STOP APOLOGIZING FOR BEING A MAN

If you’re a man, you have two choices:

1️⃣ Try to fit the soft, weak, emotional mold society pushes—and get left behind.

2️⃣ Lean into your natural masculinity—be strong, be capable, be dominant—and watch life reward you.

The truth is, everyone secretly respects men who embody strength, power, and control.

Even the people who say otherwise.

So fuck the narrative.

Be aggressive when needed.

Be dominant in your space.

Be the kind of man who handles business—no apologies, no softness, no weakness.

Because when the world needs saving, it won’t be “soft men” who step up.

It’ll be the same “toxic” men they tried to cancel.

And I say, embrace that.

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