#melkingmaxxing

i think becca deserves her autonomy, i think she has the right to keep medical information from mel, and she deserves her own life.

now this is why i also understand mel’s side: mel has given everything for becca, she’s also the sole earner of income. becca doesn’t owe mel anything because she provides for her, but wouldn’t you feel some kind of way if your sister and only person in your life completely shut u out of a part of her life when u have clearly been open about everything in yours? it seems like mel doesn’t hide much from becca so i think it makes sense she’s a little upset she’s not allowed the same courtesy.

now i also think that maybe becca’s hesitancy in sharing with mel is due to her parentification. mel was forced into the role and in turn has internalized it, she is becca’s sister but she also is her sole caretaker, when making a decision mel has more than just herself and her wellbeing to think about and this has been the case since her parents died in her childhood/adolescence.

so while i understand both sides i can’t help but understand where mel comes from the most because i think it’s a bit dismissive to say she has no right to be upset abt becca not sharing, becca cancelling last minute, etc. because i would feel some kind of way if my sister and person who i’ve clearly sacrificed a lot for doesn’t take me into consideration in her life when all i do exactly that. but again this might be BECAUSE mel was forcibly parentified and in turn changing her role in becca’s life but also(at least from mel’s perspective) it seems that they had a mutually agreed upon “rule” that they share things with each other which i think is a way mel tried to maintain that sisterly relationship, so for that to be ignored would also be hurtful.