#masculinity?

This dropped on me like a badly secured window air conditioning unit.

When we say all men are bad, all masculinity is toxic, we're basically straight up telling trans masculine people their identity is bad.

That's what I was missing in the trans feminine/trans masculine gap, the nagging thought.

We're doing the same fucking thing to trans men as is done to us, telling them they're wrong and bad and dangerous and predators, and we haven't even noticed because of how broad the generalization is. But it's the same.

In queer spaces there's a tendency to berate masculinity mercilessly. Anyone who to one degree or another has a masculine identity component is just constantly being told their identity is bad and they should feel bad.

It's "you are bad and wrong and you're not allowed" on one end for trans feminine, and "you're making yourself bad and wrong and should stop" on the trans masculine end.

This Months Fashion Debate – How Far Can We Go?

Introduction

The world is changing; the whole concept of what makes a man, what constitutes…

Lately...

Everytime I tell a guy that I like girls, They end up apologizing, like my shameless truth somehow takes them down a road they weren't ready for...

They were prepared for me to test their masculinity& for the opportunity to prove it, for me to play hard to get, for me to play, for them to be hard, for them to get me in the end but boys aren't prepared for blatant disinterest,

I engage in their small talk I even let them walk me halfway home I give them the time of day sometime knowing that once I reveal my preference they're going to be caught off guard knowing that I should stay on guard just in case it blows up in my face...

but lately it is then& only then  that a boy begins to take it like a man& apologize...