#makemoretime

How to Make More Time

About eight years ago, I used to have a really heavy schedule wich left me with little disposable time.  While I didn't really make a lot of money, I had my needs covered so I tolerated being broke.  I hadn't had my bout with cancer, so I took my health for granted. But time... time was a bitch.  It was the one thing I didn't have, and I complained about it.  A lot.  To anyone that would listen.  But I never took any steps to change that, because there was a secondary pay-off to being time-less. It was a "GET-OUT-OF-THIS" FREE card.  Whenever I faced something I didn't want to do, I would just claim I didn't have enough time.  That way, no one gets offended.  More importantly, when I faced something I couldn't do, I would blame it on time.  Under that reason / pretext / excuse, I could mask laziness, selfishness, incompetence, non-committance, irresponsibility, and lack of financial wherewithal. When my comfort-zone had deteriorated to point of intolerance, and I decided it was time to make a change, I had to stop laying the blame on lack of time.  Eventually, learning to place structure and systems around time management, provided me with the perspective (and the time) to instill other changes in my life that have taken me to where I am now.  But I can confidently say, it all starts with learning how to manage your time. Or more appropriately, your energy. In "The Power of Full Engagement" Tony Schwartz (and Jim Loehr) go really deep into how managing your energy efficiently, is the key to making more time. You see, it is impossible to make more time, as time does not exist.  Time is just an illusion.  It is a artificial construct to describe the interval between states.  Time cannot be made or lost.  Time can only experienced.

You ever heard that saying, “there is never enough time” or “time is something you can never get back” or “you shouldn’t waste time.” 

It seems as if we talk about how important time is yet we always take it from granted. I know f me I feel like I just never am able to make enough time for the things that I feel like I should be doing or simply doing more of. But I have to learn, to make more time. Time for the things that I deem important. The number on thing, is myself I need to make more time for myself. The things that I like and what I find most important something I got more acquainted with when I was away in college but have seemed to loose track of since I moved. 

There are so many distractions in the real world. So many things to take you away from yourself or help you to loose focus on your dreams and those things that you use to find peace in. Those things that I need to get back too. Its so easy for me to put myself, and my  needs up and a shelf and so wrapped up in others that I simply forget all about me. To feel bad because focusing on yourself makes you selfish. Its as if taking time for you is the worse possible thing you can do with your time. Like all we were made to do was give time to others or spend our time focused on other things. Don’t get me wrong spending time with others especially those that you love is an amazing way to you use it, however its not the only way.

Sometimes I get lost. Lost in my thoughts of what I could be using my time for. What I can be using my time better doing. I remember when I was younger I said, “If ever I had a daughter Iw anted to name her Time,” because time is precious and is one of those things that you could never get back. That way she knew her worth and how important and how valuable she was, so that she could use all that she had and use it wisely. 

Seem like I really thought that through as to what that whole thing meant yet i somehow someway forgot myself what it meant. I have to make time a priority in my life. I can’t get so wrapped up in other things that I forget about myself and what I find important or what makes me happy. Because I deserve that I deserve to enjoy my own time and time with myself. I deserve to spend my time however I choose and not feel punished by it.