#love is a commitment

That's OK, it's not about what you deserve. I do it for me and those close to me.

I don't want to be weighed down by grudges, or embittered by pointless anger, or made toxic by suspicion. That's not how I want to live. That's not what I want the people in my life to live with.

So I choose to be kind, forgiving, and generous.

It's not easy; sometimes it's downright exhausting. It takes effort to halt the angry retort, to do something for someone. To unclench the muscles in my back that want to armor me against a blow.

Loving yourself is a lot like that. If you do it right, you’ll never need another person again. You’ll only want other people. And the people you’ll want will be very special and specific because you know and like yourself now, and you won’t allow harmful people in your life. Then suddenly you’ll meet someone who interrupts that.

If you’re still not there with your self love, this person will be your worst nightmare they will bring out the worst in you and undo all your progress in self love. They’ll break all the bonds you’ve built and leave you lost, wondering who you are, and how you’ll get back.

If you are there with your self love, you will find that this person compliments you and you them. Your team work will be effortless, and you’ll go from wanting this person to needing them, not because you’ll be “nothing without them” but because you can’t have as much fun if they aren’t involved.

Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit

Maybe that’s what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way.

  And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.

~Emily Griffin, Love the One You’re With

Love is a Commitment

Love is a Commitment

  Love is a commitment to protecting another person’s heart with the same passion you use to guard your own.

~Rob Hill, Sr.