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If you're just starting to double knit I would suggest you pick a design that looks good forwards and backwards (so not the number 7, lol) and that has minimal shaping (e.g. chevron,stripes, the letter H).

It made me feel really sad because it seems like I can’t escape it. But I took my meds today and I’ve been really productive all week. So I’m worried that I’m not getting started because I’m just lazy and I don’t have self control. How do I know? 2/2

I’m not sure how much it matters whether you’re lazy or whether you’re not starting things because of ADHD. You have things to do that you are not doing. In fact, you are probably procrastinating by thinking about why you’re procrastinating. (My brain comes up with all sorts of reasons to procrastinate, and this is one of them.)

—Elise

There’s a thing that happens with ADHD, where we just don’t get started because we get sucked into something else. And that’s okay once in a while, but like Elise says, sometimes it doesn’t matter why stuff isn’t getting done, it matters that it’s not getting done.

What’s helped me is looking at what I was doing instead of what I wanted or needed to be doing, and making rules for myself about when I am allowed to do those things.

The other thing that’s important here is to avoid thinking things like you describe above. Instead of resigning yourself to “Story of my life, I haven’t started yet,” aim for more of “Oops, slow start again today. I’ll try again tomorrow. Right now I need to focus on X!” and then get started.

And yes, sometimes it really is a case of having to force yourself to start working on something, even though it feels like you can’t do it. Often if I can just do one little thing towards the larger task I will be able to do more, so make it a game of “Can I do the one little thing? Yes? Okay, how about the next little thing? How many of these little things can I do in X amount of time?” It’s amazing how many ways there are to trick ourselves into doing things! :)

The Hanged Man: A time when you wished someone would listen to you

Probably when I was a kid, around age 9, when I was mostly angsty, haha.

The High Priestess: One thing you wish you knew

Thanks dude!

17: Talk about someone you want to be friends with.

-I... don't know. I don't usually actually 'want' to be friends with people. If I talk with someone, even once, it's very likely that I consider them some sort of friend. I have people I talk to maybe once a year at best and I still consider them very good friends, because I have no sense of time spent apart. This usually gets me in trouble and I think I've messed a ton of friendships up because of it, but it's kinda hard for me to imagine friendships faiding away? If I've once felt comfortable with someone, it kinda lasts until proven otherwise.

therefore, I don't have particular wishes for people I'd like to befriend, as I rarely miss relationships I've never had and I already consider people I've met and who've shown interest in talking or spending time with me as some sort of friends.

Sure I'd sometimes wish to spend more time with some people but not being able to do so doesn't necessarily make it any less important in my mind.