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In middle school a girl asked me out and I said no. And never thought twice about it. I was happy she thought I was pretty but I didn’t want to date her. She was sooo pretty and I was obsessed with her bec I thought I wanted to be her but I probabaly liked her.

So the fact I liked guys in middle school and turned down a girl is enough for me to think that I am not a lesbian and I am making it up. I realized I liked girls when I was 14 and freshman in High school. One of the girls I liked was my best friend from middle school so I assumed since I didn’t like her in middle school I am clearly making this up. At the time I thought 14 was too young to know, but now I think that’s too old of an age to know. Which is dumb bec people can realize when they are 40.

In college I went all 4 years without liking a girl. Yes I thought so many girls were very attractive. But I feel like I don’t have enough evidence to prove I was gay

I feel like I don’t have a right to say I am a lesbian because I haven’t really dated guys.

She kinda always knew bec she read my messages when I was 14 and knew I liked girls then and she was waiting for me to talk about it. Lmao 9 years later and we are finally talking about it

But now she’s getting in my head. Making me question my questioning. The things she asked me is kinda how I feel. But everything she wondered was fueled by Comp het. She was like you just have a dating anxiety everyone is nervous to talk to guys. I told her I am uncomfortable speaking to guys and I hate it when they flirt with me. I said I neve want to have sex with men. And she said you’ll want to once you start to date a guy and know him. She told me how do you know you like a guy if you have never dated one. Then she asked me if I wanted to kiss the girl I was on a date with and I told her no and she was like oh well if your really into someone then you would want to kiss them. That’s saying what she said about guys in reverse!!

Now she’s making me feel crazy for even thinking I like girls. What if I don’t actually.

Idk if do but clearly if I went out with a girl I do. What straight girl would do that.

Hey anon, 

I scrolled all the waay down my advice section on my blog to get you a link of the ask I got regarding this topic. (I was scrolling for 20 minutes… haha)

Here is the link to that ask. 

Let me mention that I am VERY happy you want to educate yourself about this and please feel free to look at other resources because I don’t have all the information. Safe sex is super imprtant and something that should be talked about more often. 

Here are some other links to some youtube videos I made regarding sex that might interest you if you haven’t had sex with women before. 

How to talk to someone about getting tested.

How to finger a girl (female bodied person)

How to be confident in bed

How to take charge of your pleasure during sex

Tips on how to reach an orgasm

Sex and your ego

Oral Sex Tips

Female anatomy video

Lesbian Sex

Why you should masturbate

Receiving During Sex

I hope this helps anon, please let me know if you have any other questions! :)

Much love, 

Hey anon, 

Nope I am not a “Gold Star Lesbian” and I am quite proud of it :) I don’t think being a Gold Star Lesbian is something that makes you “more gay” or “better” than anyone else in the LGBTQ+ community. I actually have very strong feelings about that term. Feel free to check out the video on my channel where I talk about it. Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJ9av3PBGP4

Hope you are doing well. 

Much love,