#leaningback

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HEALING IS . . .

Letting go of the 

old habit 

of stuffing down

your bad feelings

or

letting

those feelings

burn

inside of you

like

a 

raging

inferno.

Healing is

facing your feelings, 

embracing them

and

going deeper

down

into

the bottom

of

each

one.

The point of healing is to make things okay with you on the inside.

So that you’ll be more in your positive and in your truth, especially on the outside.

Because when you heal, something wonderful will happen.Your core will be even more solid.

And your outside will soften.

You’ll exhale and release some of the tenseness, the sinking feeling, the soreness or the tightness you’ve experienced.

And the special person in your life 

-will notice the change.

-will feel the healing 

-will sense your extra softness and be intrigued with your inner strength (because it will radiate).

And you’ll lean back and be warm and inviting . . .

But for any of this to occur, you’ve got to heal first.

You’ve got to go 

deep

into your pain,

your fear,

your despair,

your regret,

your fury,

your rage,

your sadness,

your confusion,

your anger,

your embarrassment

or your blankness

and discover the truth of your feelings.

You’ve got to face the sensation of whatever it is . . .

Healing is dealing with all of the feelings I just described (as well as any others you may have).

HEALING IS . . .

dealing with a bad situation,dealing with the stuff that happens to us, inside of us & in our lives and dealing with the feelings  rather than stuffing them down or pushing them aside.

Face the feelings

Face the problems

One-by-one

and

Head on.

HOW?

You start by acknowledging what you’re feeling.

Especially that feeling.

You know . . .

The feeling that makes your short tempered.

The feeling that makes you want to cry.

The feeling that makes you want to scream.

The feeling that makes you want to hurt someone.

The feeling that makes you curl into a ball and try to shut the world out.

The feeling that makes you put on a fake smile just so you can make it through the day.

The feeling that makes you want runaway from everything and everyone.

And whatever that feeling creates – just face it, gently, softly, slowly.

Let it just be there.

Let it touch you.

Let it expand and spread.

Let it go as far as it can go all through you.

And then just embrace yourself.

A big self hug.

Wrap both arms around yourself and embrace the feelings inside of you.

Please don’t close your eyes and don’t shut out the feeling.  

Don’t shut down.  

Feel your solidness inside.  You are stronger than this feeling.

Now talk.  Talk to that feeling if you want.

Say out loud what’s on your heart.

Say what you feel.

Speak your honest truth.

Let it out.

Once you’ve said your peace, I want you to search inside and look for something good.  Find a positive in that moment.

Look to something that made you feel good or makes you feel happy.

Look to something that makes you feel alive.Now sit still with that good feeling for a while.

Expand upon it and let it go through your body.

Breathe it deep into your lungs.

Repeat this healing meditation as often as you need to.

Later on, reflect on other positive things that feel good in your life.

These are all baby steps.

I refuse to be pushed out of my feminine energy.  Instead, I will practice the PAUSE.  Let everything slow down so that I can guide my masculine “doing” energy to go in the direction that best suites me (rather than letting it take control and drag me out of my feminine).

No matter how much you lean back

Do you still find yourself putting demands on your man?

Wanting him to do things the way you want them done?

Are you wanting to control the relationship or how he treats you?

I’ve been there and it can feel awful.

You see him pulling away gradually

but you can’t stop yourself . . .

You want what you want!

You feel the happiness and the relationship slipping away

and you feel yourself falling back into old patterns.

You’re becoming controlling.

The good news is that you can change this!

All you have to do is STOP.

Stop demanding

Stop wanting

This is where you pause.

Pausing is stopping your old pattern.

You turn from your old way of responding.

You turn from your masculine impulses.

You turn your focus inward.

Focusing on your deepest most honest feelings.

Turning inward shifts your vibe.

Shifting your vibe is about getting more feminine when you’re acting masculine.

It’s about softening up and stopping all that “doing.”

Yes, stop doing stuff.

Stop making things happen.

Stop managing situations.

Stop making plans.

This is about letting go of the urge to control.

It’s about Just being.

Experiencing

Exploring

Experimenting

Embracing being feminine.

Let him do stuff.

Let him make the first move.

Let him make the plans.

Let him get things done.

Let him row the boat of the relationship to the shore of the relationship you want.

Let him move the relationship along by stopping your urge to control.

If you stop everything and “Just Be”

you’ll be able to tell if he’s rowing the boat at all

or if you were the one rowing.

If you stop everything and “Just Be”

you’ll give him the opportunity to pick up the oars

and you can observe him

and process your feelings.

You can give yourself a little space for some “me time”

Plan things for yourself alone to pamper yourself

Interact with men out in the world who notice you

practice being feminine and soft

Smile and make eye contact.

Just Be.