ima need both parties to dead the whole “lesbians suffer from less lesbophobia bc they dont date men” conceit bc they still have to participate in society with men and have family that are men… minimizing lesbophobic violence and systems to “defend” bisexual women in hetero relationships does not do what ppl think it does. we’re both still victims babe. it’s really only severely online insular communities who be beefing with bi women who center men in wlw spaces/relationships bc at the end of the day, if that’s your friend irl, you’d dead just tell her “ay blood tryna hear about yo nigga alla time like that, chill.” and that be that… and lesbians do it too, bc it be so many “guy’s girl” dykes running around tryna impress the bros or still be appealing to them bc as women we’ve been groomed all our lives to desire their attention/approval/admiration bc that’s some internal programming we’re all at different stages of unlearning?
while i dont believe these degrees are equal in favor of lesbians, bc statistically there is gonna be more material benefit playing into heteronormativity no matter how you individually identify, and that’s something you can only control with intent on a very scant level when it comes to first glance judgements, there are more similar issues than not. i just hate when people play into the lesbophobic big bad bully myth. like it’s really dykes at the door ready to beat you black and blue for letting a bi girl cis bf for wearing a pussy hat or sumn.
rather than biphobia being systemic, insofar i experience it as an extension of lesbophobia specifically, what i consider to have experienced as biphobia was more on a person to person level, like the bad faith judgements on my morality or ability to be loyal. all the other shit was fetishistic bs or violence from cis het men and women.
& girl it always gags the newer bi girls when they find out a fellow bi woman chose up on them for a man too, like girl just bc we share an identity or space dont mean they’ll consider you better than the man they value more than you too. lol compulsory heterosexuality comes back to bite all of us, bi or not. if they heart not in it for women fr that’s they cross to carry, not a reason to perpetually self victimize online.
