#knatalie

This custom snake sleeve sweater was an attempt to capture my client’s favorite snake, the Australian Tree Snake!

I used Tosh sport for the green and Sweet Georgia Yarns Sport

Custom Snake Sleeve Sweater finished! 

You have no idea how many fics and AUs I've seen where it's just "x character comes out as y" leaving the how and the what now up to the reader.

I love the Mulan/Ping one because it brings together parts of the movie to make a seamless transition into the scenario and it makes sense. 

my only problems with bdsm is when it normalizes shitty things or when cishet kinksters start trying to “”“reclaim”“” queer

wow i was rlly scared your opinions were gonna be like RACEPLAY IS FUN! WHO NEEDS SAFE WORDS?/???? but no wow i totally agree and want to punch that person in the teeth rlly hard

me too and i just

like i said, there are abusive, terrible shit going on in bdsm

but i don't feel like that's the majortity of people who who are into bdsm

it also makes me feel gross that these people who are making these awful claims are like

idk

i think you are underestimating everyone involved her COME ON CMON SPILL I’M CURIOUS NOW

okay to start off; i took my anxiety meds so i am kinda loopy and stuff might not make total sense

i'm not involved in the bdsm ~community~ (idk mostly cause i think it's kind of silly to have a 'community' cause you happen to like kinky sex and this is probably shitty of me to say idk i'm sorry if it is)

BUT i do like ~kinky~ stuff, not like ~extreme~ stuff but idk maybe one day i'd like to try it, like i'm not opposed

i think i could be a switch, but i'm more interested in subbing

and idk yes of course there is abuse and horrific shit going on in the bdsm world and maybe i'm naive, but i don't think that's an all encomposing representation of the majority of bdsm folk

hm i'm not making a lot of coherency here let me try to get back on track

most of the anti-bdsm stuff i see, is all based on heterosexual relationships, and you can't win either way. if you're a male dom, you are apparently a sadistic fuck who is abusing somebody and gets off on degrading women. if you're a male sub, you are apparently getting off because you get off on women's inferiority or some shit.

and if you're a female sub, you are buying into patriarchy and are ~brainwashed~ and if you're a female dom, you're buying in the whole 'this guy needs to degrade me cause i am inferior'

idk. if a female sub is enjoying it and feeling safe and isn't being abused and trusts her partner and they have safe words and a healthy relationship, i don't see the problem?

it also bothers me cause that line of thinking erases gay and lesbian couples who participate in in bdsm

i saw a post going around about how bdsm is always abuse NO EXCEPTIONS (and they were talking about het couples)

and i go 'um. gay and lesbian couples engage in bdsm'

and this stupid fucker goes 'well yeah but everybody knows in gay relationships, one is being fucked and the other isn't; so gay men especially perpetuate misogyny because the receiving gay man in the bdsm is being reduced to a woman blah blah blah one man fucking the other is reducing the other to a woman and that is misogynistic'

and that made me made because uh

there is no 'man' in lesbian couples

there is no 'woman' in gay couples

and idk it seems really kind of sexist to me to assume that because somebody is being fucked, they're automatically reduced to 'an oppressed woman'???

like idk. i think as long as bdsm encounters are consentual and safe and have safe words and both partners love and respect each other and don't cross boundaries then like

what's the problem?

ooh do tell those are the best kind