#kittyit

so the basic problem that radfems have, is that their politics are right-wing and reactionary, despite whatever airs of progressivism they put on. they find themselves drawn to the right wing, because Fox News and The Post-Millennial affirm their deep-seated hatred for trans women (which is the true basis of their entire project, not any kind of positive vision for women). and i have seen them repeatedly formulate this exact justification when people point out that they're platforming Andy Ngo or whoever (as kittyit recently did): "well, the left is just as misogynistic as the right! it's all garbage! so what's the difference!"

the difference is that the right wing publishes more content that resonates with you, obviously. the right wing publishes all the salacious, poorly-researched, speculative stories of trans women predators that you love so dear. which is why you gravitate toward it! it's why so many radfems have allied with the evangelical religious right, going all the way back to dworkin and raymond.

the evangelical christian right sees radical feminism as a natural ally, and they're right to. because the overriding concern for radfems is the elimination of trans people, and they are happy to sacrifice every other feminist cause (including abortion access) in the name of that goal.

even the supposed good ones, like kittyit, still basically believe what the right wing believes about trans people ("i'm not saying the Andy Ngo article in the NY Post is inaccurate..." of course you're not lol). and it's laudable that she, at least, has made a firm commitment not to ally herself with right wing homophobes and misogynists. i just wish she was better at convincing her sisters to follow suit.

things move so fast now but yeah in 2015 max (my gf) & i publicly spoke about our new gender critical beliefs despite being a moderately popular radical queer power couple. she built a tshirt empire under zazzle poetry (now @zarglepoetry) & i was a weirdoqueer aesthetic schizo traumablogger with a moderate following. we were having fun making weird stuff, like long pdfs about our cats, zines about being abused, & crazy family guy parodies. anyway everyone freaked the fuck out and said we deserved to die, got mad at me for misgendering my rapists, etc. you can read the original post here. obviously it’s extremely unpolished & basic.

but! social media telephone games turned this into all kinds of crazy shit, like max & i had been just faking being trans (she literally got her mastectomy with the money from zp) to sell t-shirts, etc. i also had a period of reactivity after we did this bc i has recently been raped for the last time by my last trans gf and was having trouble coping with the crazy amounts of internet harassment so like 3 things i said and then immediately apologized/took accountability for still get brought up as my defining features to this day.

so basically the narrative was like, if kittyit can be a a CRYPTOTERF and get OUTED then ANYONE CAN BE A CRYPTOTERF!!! but we didn’t get outed, we made a conscious choice to openly share our beliefs (now known as terf on main) bc we consulted about it and decided it was the only ethical thing to do after years of endorsing beliefs/encouraging behaviors we now understood to be damaging. we lost a ton of income from zp and people were mocking my fear i’d have to return to the sex industry but instead we racked up a bunch of debt. and while it really sucked to lose a bunch of people I considered friends & also to be sent rape/death threats for years (someone once sent me a BUNCH of anons trying to make me think they were literally en route to murder my mom but they said “house” and she was living on a boat), we kept friends & made new ones too.

we started making private peer support groups on Facebook for ex-“radical queers” (the popular term at the time for deep TRA) some of which are still active/turned into a whole network of female only online space, some of which have blossomed into irl meetups. and the entire time I’ve been a GIGANTIC loud mouthed b*tch about how male trans people commit male violence (and my experience with that), which has everyone extremely steamed.

  mrs potts wore a lot of makeup and got back with...

AND she has a son.

Do you have a “type”? If so, describe it

looks/style wise im so into butch/stud/otherwise gnc women (which rip me bc im not fem lol) especially with like a goth or punk aesthetic, ugh my heart. also tbh i always think women with that kinda “fuckboy” look are hot but im soft and i know thats not for me 

anyways um personality wise i like someone who i can talk about music a lot with, no offense to anyone but i find it disturbing when people say they don’t like music, not to be dramatic but when i hear that i go into a spiral of existential panic. um someone who has a similar humor to me. like you know when you’re trying to joke around with someone and you just aren’t matching up and it’s awkward? that sucks. i would say generally the same like politics bc how can i date liberal lmao we would both be miserable. i think that’s the main stuff. i like women who are tall, that’s hot. 

Describe the best date you’ve been on

ahem, i don’t have the best track record with dates tbh and it’s been a long time since i been on one. i feel like the list above describes why lol bc where does that woman exist? certainly not where i live lmao

What lesbian stereotypes do you fit into, if any?

this post really bums me out and it’s the only one in my tag, so i’ll just say, it definitely wasn’t one trans woman, & it wasn’t just me :( i do NOT think all trans women are predators and have said that very clearly (including in that original post). that’s just as incorrect as saying all iranian men are predators or all men are predators. naming a pattern of violence is not naming the people involved in that pattern as a monolith. i’m truly sorry that was done to you.