#jayson lo

This 2014, set your goals; but use Approach Goals rather than Avoidance Goals.

In one of our alumni basketball games many years ago, the score was tied with less than two-minutes left in the game. The opposing team fouled a teammate in the act of shooting. Before our fouled teammate went to the free throw line, one of our guys told him, “Don’t miss the free throw.” Our fouled teammate badly missed both.

Fortunately, we recovered after that. We were leading by two points with 10 seconds left. The player I was guarding got the ball outside the three-point line. I was trash talking (a colloquial term in basketball to intimidate an opponent) him the whole time and urged him to shoot the ball: “Shoot mo!” sige “Shoot mo!” He shot a three-pointer at the top of the key (the center of the court). BOOM! It went in with no time left in the shot clock. In my face! OUCH! We lost by one point.

What happened? Our guy who tried to encourage our teammate taking the free throw shot, gave an avoidance goal… “Don’t miss the free throw.” Having an avoidance goal increased the likelihood of the very outcome he professed to prevent. It’s like the girl I watched in an episode of American Idol during the team rounds. She continuously reminded herself, “Don’t forget the lyrics, Don’t forget the lyrics.” When her turn came, she forgot the lyrics.

On the other hand, I told the opposing player to “Shoot the Ball,” I gave him an approach goal inadvertently, and he won the game for his team. Instead of saying“Shoot Mo,” I should’ve said “Huwag mo shoot, ikaw ang mag papatalo.”

This year, start making Approach Goals and stop making Avoidance Goals.

For example, if you want to court someone, instead of saying “I don’t want to be rejected again,” say “I want her to like me.” So if you want to succeed, say, “I want to succeed” and never say, “I don’t want to fail.”

Shoot the ball! You can do it!

The Key

Thank you Yeng for writing a blurb in  YOUnique youth "How to be liked by people who are unlike YOU" This book is a blessing to today's young people. It will help them easily know themselves better. -Yeng Constantino

A dream is to think of the future.  A plan is to prepare for the future.  A dream and a plan will create the future. 

Yesterday, while I was creating an outline for a future talk, I chanced upon this amazing illustration.

A recently published study revealed that worker ants sacrifice time and efficiency in order to teach other ants how to find food. When an ant goes out to find food, she will often choose another ant to accompany her. If the second ant doesn’t know the way to the food source, the leader will teach her through a process called tandem running. As the teacher runs along the path to find fod, the student follows behind and will often stop to locate landmarks. When the student is ready, she will run forward and tap her teacher on her back legs. This process is extremely beneficial for the student. Ants participating in tandem running located a food source in an average of 201 seconds, while ants searching for food on their own took an average of 310 seconds (a 35% difference). However, the study found that the lead ants traveled up to four times faster when they were not accompanied by a student.

If the leader didn’t want to be slowed down this much, researchers also observed that some would simply carry a follower on their backs and drop them off at the food source. This technique was three times faster than tandem running. But here’s the catch: the carried ants were not able to remember how to get back to the food source again.

Tandem Running is not just applicable with ants; it is also applicable with leaders. Waiting and helping other people goes hand in glove with leadership. As you practice “tandem running” by mentoring others, you’ll cultivate more satisfying and deeper connections with your people.

Here is the link to my website to order:

http://www.jaysonlo.com/buy-younique/

Saying “I don’t have time” to your dreams is not an excuse not to do them. Everyone’s day has 24 hours, or 1, 440 minutes, or 86,400 seconds. We have time… we just use it elsewhere. Time is abundant, but it is also a rare resource if you don’t know how to use it wisely.

When you want something bad enough, you make the time… No Matter What! if you want to start that dream business, and you don’t have time to pursue it, use 1 hour a day to plan and build that business. Make every single day count. In almost every speaking engagement I’ve been to, people will approach me and say I want to be a speaker in the future, or  want to write a book someday…But (you know what’s coming next) “I don’t have time!”

Here are some reasons why we say “I don’t have time.”

1) Ego. “I don’t want to fail.”

2) Fear. “I am afraid to fail.”

3) Lack of Focus. “I am doing so many things.”

4) Doubt. “I don’t know where to start.”

5) Indifference. “I don’t think anyone would care.”

6) Lack of resources. ‘I don’t have the money.”

and the most commonly used of them all and the worst dream killer…

7) Adrenaline Rush. “I am busy!”

If you have a dream in your heart and you haven’t pursued it – WHAT’S YOUR EXCUSE?

No Time = Not a Priority!

Do not wait for the perfect time because “The perfect time never arrives!”