#jayslashthem

I understand you went though something terrible, and i am truly sorry about that. But making this blog, and then continuing it after you received mass critisim from transfems, was entirely the wrong move. I've seen you talk about how it's "taboo" to talk about being assaulted by transfems, how they're seen as a category ontologically incapable of abuse, but in reality its entirely the opposite. Transfeminine people are disproportionately accused of sexual assault and rarely are those accusations ever even slightly examined or the transfem's refutations believed. Victims are far from facing a "wall of silence", as you've described. Quite the opposite, in fact. Countless trans women have been driven from the community by false accusations. I've never seen a TME victim (or perpetrator, for that matter) turned on the same way.

On the face, if this blog was just a transmasc answer to the transfem voices project, I'd be all for it. (apart from the fact you blatantly copy-pasted the outline post. Thats. Thats not good. Make your own.) But this blog has clearly become a space to talk about specifically abuse by transfems, and this became especially clear when you included cis voices. I thought this was about transmasc voices? I struggle to comprehend why you'd include cis voices, but specifically disregard transfem voices due to "limited resources". Wouldn't the logical resource cut off point be for all non-transmascs? Including, say, cis people? And I'm not saying that transfems can't be abusers. They can. Anyone can. But by focusing only on abuse by transfems, you're perpetuating the idea that all or most transfems are abusers, which is entirely untrue. It's like doing a census on crime but only focusing on crimes done by POC and not letting them participate in the census.

You claim this blog isn't in bad faith, but frankly that's really hard to believe. Even if you didn't mean to, the space you've cultivated here only perpetuates the hurt and hate our sisters face every day for just daring to exist. Any many, many transfems have made you aware of that. You haven't listened to them. But you claim to amplify transmasc voices. Maybe you'll listen to me. Please consider deactivating this blog and reading up on transfeminism. If you really are acting in good faith, the later would be especially helpful to you, i think.

PS: You say your own story is being silenced, but I'm sure if you posted it on your main, instead of making a project about it, you'd have seen nothing but an outpouring of support. It's the cultivating a specifically anti-transfem voices space thats the problem here.

You’re promising a hypothetical support that you’re simultaneously proving wouldn't exist by attacking the very platform I had to build because the "main" community tried to silence me.

You claim victims are "far from facing a wall of silence," and yet, here I am, telling you that when I spoke up on my own, I was told to shut the fuck up and stop slandering vulnerable people. You’re dismissing my actual, lived experience of being silenced because it doesn't align with your theory that trans women are the only ones getting dogpiled.

You talk about "false accusations" driving trans women out of the community. I’m not talking about false accusations. I’m talking about abuse. And the fact that you immediately jump to the "false accusation" narrative whenever someone talks about being harmed by a trans woman is exactly why survivors stay quiet. You aren't interested in the truth; you’re interested in the hierarchy of who is allowed to be a victim.

You’re confused about why I include cis voices? It’s because the abuse isn't limited to one demographic of perpetrator, but the common denominator is the way the community rallies to protect them at the expense of the survivor. I didn't "copy-paste the outline." I used a format that worked because the original project established the necessity of documenting abuse within our community. If you don't like the format, that’s your problem.

And don't you dare tell me to "read up on transfeminism" as if I’m just an uneducated, hateful kid who doesn't know the theory. I know exactly what you’re doing. You’re trying to use academic-sounding language to justify the fact that you find my survival inconvenient. You’re not "inviting me to consider" anything. You’re trying to manage my behavior because you think I’m a liability.