My nameâs Jen McBride, Iâm 18 years old and from Michigan. I wouldnât be here without you. I know thatâs a very strong statement, but itâs also very true. Youâve kept me sane for the past 6 years and I couldnât thank you enough for that. You were there for me when no one else was. You never left me. You were there through my hardest and happiest times. I always find myself going back to you when I need help. Thank you for always being here for me.
I used to struggle with self-harm. I was self-harming for almost 5 years. On October 17, 2012 I had a meet and greet with you guys at St. Andrewâs Hall in Detroit, MI. When I handed Jack my copy of Donât Panic to sign he grabbed my hand, looked at me, and said, âI love you.â I donât know if he saw my arm all tore up, or if he was just saying it to say it, but that simple thing change my life. The last time I self-harmed was October 11, 2012. When Jack told me that he loved me, I genuinely felt like someone cared and thatâs something I didnât even feel from my family or closest friends. I feel like it was Jack trying to tell me, âHey, what youâre doing isnât cool, I love you, stop that.â Maybe it wasnât intentionally supposed to be that, but thatâs how I took it, and because of that, Iâm over 2 years clean from self-harm. Believe it or not, no one else has ever told me to stop. Out of the 2 people I did tell about my self-harm, none of them cared enough to tell me to stop. They only said, âIâm sorry.â Thank you, Jack, for changing my life.
The lyrics you write in songs have helped me more times than I can even count on my fingers and toes. I know that when you wrote âTherapyâ you werenât expecting it to help as much as it does. You just wrote it to help yourself, but that song has gotten me through so much shit and helped me in so many ways. When I lost 4 of my best friends at once, the lines âin a city of fools, I was careful and cool, but they tore me apart like a hurricane.â Made me feel less alone about the situation I was in. Those 4 people did tear me apart, but I still wasnât alone, I had All Time Low. Stay Awake has also had the same effect on me. Especially the lyrics, âget a grip and get out, youâre safe from the weight of the world. Just take a second to set things straight.â Like, Hey. I know Iâm freaking out right now, but if I just take a second to think straight, Iâll be fine. That has saved me from so many panic attacks. I listened to those songs every day before going to school just to help calm down my anxiety. Iâd listen to them in class when I was feeling anxious. It just helped me breathe. I listened to those songs every day before going to school just to help calm down my anxiety. Iâd listen to them in class when I was feeling anxious. It just helped me breathe.
Thank you, Alex for making me realize Iâm not alone.Â
Thank you for helping me realize that Iâm capable of helping myself. I donât need to depend on anyone, and that Iâm strong. When I met you on October 4, 2013 I told you my story about self-harm and how I tried to end my life a year before that. You told me to âstop doing stupid shit.â And âYou saved yourself, I didnât do anything.â Although I was kind of expecting a different response to what I told you, you were real with me and I appreciate that. I kinda needed to hear what you told me. Yes, I was doing stupid shit, and yes, I stopped doing stupid shit. You gave me a sense of pride like hey, I stopped doing this stuff because I wanted to, not because I had to. You helped me believe in myself again and I appreciate you a lot for that. Also, thank you for all the shout out tweets for buying amerrickan stuff. :)
Thank you, Zack, for helping me believe in myself.
The last time I met you we talked about tattoos and about how youâre glad Iâm happy now. You told me that I deserve to be happy. You helped me realize that I am capable of being happy and that I deserve to be. Youâve also taught me how to stay humble. Youâre such a nice person, youâre nice to every single person you meet and I think thatâs not always the easiest thing to do. I appreciate everything you do for me. My favorite memory with you is when I met you and I told you that I didnât think you looked like a potato (still donât think you look like a potato) and you just looked so happy that I said that. Ahaha itâs something Iâll always remember.
Thank you, Rian for keeping me happy and humble.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to travel. I went to Baltimore from Detroit for my 18th birthday to see you guys because I couldnât make it to the date in Michigan. Without you four, I probably wouldnât of had the chance to see how beautiful Baltimore really is. Also, thank you for giving me the opportunity to meet wonderful people. I met two of my best friends, Kayleigh and Shelby, because of you four. We met at Ferris Fest. Ever since that day, weâve been good friends. We always meet up at shows. We hang out outside of shows too. I actually took Shelby with me to Baltimore to see you guys. I moved out of my parentsâ house closer to Kayleigh and Shelby so we could hang out more. Without you guys, I wouldnât have met them and I donât know where Iâd be without them. I appreciate you more than youâll ever understand. Youâve changed my life for the better in so many ways. Thank you again. I love you so much.Â
1. The first time I met All Time Low. Ferris Fest, Ferris State University, April 21, 2012, Big Rapids, Michigan
2. The last time I met All Time Low. A Love Like War Tour, Ramâs Head Live, May 1, 2014, Baltimore, Maryland
3. My All Time Low inspired tattoo. Itâs a compass because it reminds me of the lyrics âbefore you ask which way to go, remember where youâve been.â