#intertrans

You cannot reclaim hermaphrodite or baeddel unless you are intersex, and it’s not transmisogynistic to tell you that. Those slurs are intersex slurs only for intersex people to reclaim. Time and time again we have said the h slur in particular isn’t even reclaimable for us (or at least to use them ONLY FOR/TOWARDS YOURSELF if you do reclaim it since it hurts so many intersex people still today), so why do you think you can reclaim it? You cannot reclaim it. Either of them, please stop trying to.

And no, hermaphrodite still being used in animal biology or as “medical terminology” does not give you the right to use it be it in attempt to reclaim or you are referring to intersex people. Preferably, at all, but you know. There are other slurs still technically used those ways we know still are slurs, yeah? This is no different.

And no, you cannot transition to intersex, transitioning doesn’t make you intersex and absolutely does not give you the right to use those words. Psychologically intersex is not real, and if you have a cdd, an alter cannot be intersex unless the body is. It’s no different than an alter cannot be a different race from the body. It’s not transphobic to tell you that, either.

Pointing out and trying to educate on harms and bias in our communities is not bigotry, not inherently, some may try to use education as a front for being -phobic/ist but it’s very clear thats not what I am doing and you know that. Or, at least, I hope so. I truly am trying to go about it which is as gently and kindly as possible. Perhaps ask yourself, if this upsets you, why? Why does being educated on intersex people and gently told you are taking terms not meant for you make you upset?

You do this all the time, do you not? Try to inform and correct completely without malice but just to make places safer? Help people understand? Why is it suddenly not okay for intersex people to do so be it with slurs or other terminology, or just trying to explain to you intersex experiences? Especially but not solely intertrans (yes we can also be trans being intersex is not automatically cis or cis lite or however other way you automatically categorize us) experiences? Really think on that.

Please listen to intersex voices, trans and cis intersex voices, stop “including” us only as argument points then turning around and trying to boot us from our own communities right after. Our liberation goes hand in hand with yours, they do not clash. We are two sides of the same coin, stark differences but also significant overlap. Queer rights are trans rights are intersex rights are human rights.

Kind regards,

your intersex transfem sibling