#intention matters

🕯️ Ancestor Altar – Day 8 🌿

November 3rd – Farewell and Closing the Altar

Tonight, the last white candle is lit, and copal is burned one final time as we say goodbye to our beloved dead, asking them to return again next year. The altar’s offerings are carefully removed — a symbolic gesture of release and gratitude.

This marks the close of the ancestor altar journey, a sacred time of remembrance, connection, and love that has unfolded over these past days. Each candle, each drop of water, each offering carried intention — not perfection. Because ancestral and spiritual work isn’t about having all the right tools or a flawless setup; it’s about showing up. It’s about love made visible through small, sincere acts.

As I extinguish the candles, I carry forward the warmth and wisdom of those who came before me — their laughter, their lessons, and their light. Their presence lingers in quiet ways, woven into my daily life.

To everyone who followed along, shared memories, and created altars of your own: thank you. This space of shared remembrance is powerful. Together, we have spoken names, lit candles, and opened the way for healing across generations.

May our ancestors rest in peace, surrounded by our love.

Solas' lies are less fundamental than some people i've gone on dates with

I think white people talk about appropriation more than people of color. I really appreciate the consideration and conscious effort to respect the traditions of other cultures, but let the affected speak for themselves. It's all about context and intention.

We are not post race, nor are we post language. It's important to remain respectful of where people are with what they do or do not know. Attacking people for simply not knowing how their words and actions can be misconstrued only adds to the problem. Discuss it with them without making them feel like an idiot or bigot, or let the person being affected by it speak for themselves.

It is a privilege to study these ideas in schools, where many of these topics are discussed in a safe space. And not everyone has that privilege. It might be on someone's radar, when it is not on someone else's because they have never been faced with these theories and perspectives.